So my girlfriend if 6 years separated cuz I couldn't stop talking to other women. It was a mutual agreement. We just got back together after being separated for 4 months. I love her so much but I still have the urge to want to talk to other girls and flirt. I want things to work out but I just can't get over the fact that other women flirt with me and I always want to Pursue them. I'm so upset and confused please help!!
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Think of how it would feel if your girlfriend was paying attention to other guys or acting a certain away around them in the way you are doing to other women? Do you agree she should stay with you after that? Do you agree she deserves better? I mean you love her right? If so, then yes, she deserves better. I can see why you both made this agreement becuase look at what it's doing; it's causing problems and trust issues.
Now, normally, I always believed it was okay for boyfriends to still have female friends and girlfriends have male friends, just as long as they are faithful, but this is completely different. You are purposely looking the other way, and if women approach you, you didn't have the decency to turn them down and say "Hey, not interested, I'm taken." You just can't do it.
If that's the case, your girlfriend deserves to walk out, becuase one of these days, you'll get even weaker and just end up fooling around or sleeping with somebody else. If you can't practice self control now, then you'll stumble sooner or later. It sounds like you enjoy the single life and just want to have fun without strings attached. You are not ready to settle down.
You need to be honest with her. If you truly love her like you say you do, you will do the right and fair thing. What do I mean?
1) If you have such a problem with this temptation, you will tell her the truth that you can't just handle yourself. Therefore, you should let her go so she can be with somebody else that can commit to her. OR
2) you tell her how much she mean to you and that you will dedicate all and every part of your being to the relationship you have with her, and you will mean it. Don't lie to her, becuase that isn't love.
You can't have it both ways, dude.0