What? That's it? You just give up like that? Unless you have a medical condition which has left you severely physically deformed, you have no excuse. Is that what you do in life? Cry about things like a little baby, give up, and then ask questions on a random site filled with people who hardly know anything about relationships just so they can pet your ego and tell you that everything is fine and agree with you? Way to show character, no wonder you're in the situation you're in right now. How about you stop crying about it and start working on improving yourself so you can become the best version of you, a version that will get guys interested. Do something productive that will solve your problem and not something that will temporarily make you feel better. Love doesn't come to you and land on your lap, it takes work. The work is personal growth and keeping your eyes open. Are you unattractive? Go to the gym and get a killer body, don't be lazy. Are you too shy? Get over it and talk to people, ANYONE. Work your way up and things that seemed difficult in the past will seem like the norm in the future. Life isn't easy, life is a cold hearted bitch that will swallow you and spit you whole if you let it get to you. So stop with this stupid, yes stupid, and weak attitude and do something about it. Take it one step at a time, give yourself a small goal everyday and work your way up from there. Stop believing in what you can't do and concentrate on what you can do. You do you and worry about nothing else until you're a happy person. It's only when you love yourself that others can love you as well. Seriously how do you expect someone else to love you if you don't love yourself? If you did love yourself you'd want to best for you and not settle for a miserable life. So start loving yourself and who you are and work on making yourself happier and the version of you that you always dream about. Yes it will be difficult in the begging, but the longer you keep at it the easier it will get. So get yourself out of this rut and go for a walk. Look around and take in all the beauty in the world. So stop being such a little bitch.
Just think: your special someone out there is probably thinking the exact same thing at this moment, wondering why nothing is working. He (or she, no assumptions!) just hasn't met you yet! You're going to go through a lot of bad apples before you find that ripe one. From all this you can gather that you need to see some bad before you truly know what good is. Live your life, learn to find happiness in your own pursuits, and do what makes YOU happy. Date, have fun, and don't take things too seriously: someone who loves you will learn to accept you as you are (regardless of quirks, stresses, and minor incompatibilities). That someone special will add to your personal happiness, not detract and demand away from it. It will be that person that you may end up spending the rest of your adult life with.
As a final note, the most empowering thing you can discover is that you don't really need to rely on another person to truly be happy! Find hobbies that really fascinate you and that you can focus your time and attention on. Talk to your friends and make new ones on the side (more social connections = greater chance of meeting someone too if you look at it that way). Go on small trips to places you've never been before and try exotic foods on your own budget. You're single, you're free, and the world is all yours for the time being: so embrace that! :)
You can't possibly know that! You are 26 with a long time to go. I don't know any background so It's hard for me to say much else. Try to quit over thinking it. That always makes things seem much worse than they are. I hope you get out of the rut you are in. It's counterproductive and is holding you back is more ways than you realize.
The same way I cope with having pretty much no friends - by ignoring the fact all together and focusing on the few good things I have. I mean, sure, I'll probably end up all alone when I'm older... but at least I'll have Skyrim to play... so there's that...
You can't know that but if u keep thinking like that then u r probably pushing urself to not to have a serious relationship ever. It's part you who's supposed to handle the responsibility to make the relationship work so be positive.
You instrospect. You analyze your beliefs and perceptions. You take a good look at yourself physically. You conclude that you need to improve certain things, and will make effort to improve others. You realize how to do it. You simply do it. And then you do you.
When you find yourself in the crossroads again, repeat the process.
I doubt that. But if ur 100% sure then u gotta accept it and change ur lifestyle to adapt. For example: stop focusing on making relationships successful and instead focus on working or studying or whatevs
I don't know, Honestly, it scares me the thought that it might happen to me, I'd rather die than grow old all by myself and honestly, I'm planning for that possibility, I'll probably take my life once I become sure there is no one for me
Well, being a pessimist certainly doesn't help. I personally don't know if I will have a successful relationship or not. But I know I'd work at it, if necessary. I can't guarantee that it will be successful, but I will try to make it work.
how about stop repeating the same mistakes you always keep on doing in every past relationship that you had and learn from them? it says a whole lot about you as a person if you can't even acknowledge that you have a problem. You can't keep on blaming all your mistakes on your ex's when you both are equally as responsible for what happened for that relationship to fail. that is not maturity that is stagnation. until you learn to learn the reason why your relationship keep on failing with every single one of those ex's, or wither they were your lovers or somebody you just hooked up with; you will continue to go through that never-ending cycle until you learn to break it. no offense and all that but there really is no excuse.
first, you have to question your relationship: are you happy with your partner, do you see yourself (in the future, having an apartment together and if it's serious, build a family together) with him/her... etc. When you're pass these questions, that's when you judge and come to a conclusion: either you both are happy, therefore it's "successful" or something's wrong and you're not feeling the relationship: "not so successful relationship". In that case, you talk about it with your partner, and sort things out and if it's not really working then it means you have to break apart because it's not benefit for you or the partner. And in that case, put in mind that it was one of the many experiences, and you'Re probably going to find a person that will make you happy and will turn into a successful relationship!
I'm learning to be at peace with it. I don't think there is someone for everyone, I think some people are destined to be alone. Some animals don't mate for life, some just wander around on their own forever. I'm an okapi.
Here’s a test: what’s going on in your life right now? What are you looking forward to in the near future?
Are you travelling somewhere interesting? Learning to scuba dive? Writing a book? Dancing in front of a crowd? How about giving blood, starting a business, helping homeless people, making a billion dollars or juggling knives?
When your overall life is awesome, your attraction rises. Your confidence, and understanding, and imagination and humility and empathy and a million other skills all increase. You become more interesting. You become more unique. And you will almost certainly be happier, even when you don’t have a partner.
A surprisingly large number of my friends found their spouses by volunteering in the developing world. In what might seem like the least likely place imaginable they found other awesome people who were doing the same. They mixed up their jellybeans and made their life awesome all in one.
Paradoxically, one of the best things to do to improve your dating success is not focus on dating. Live awesome first. And don’t be afraid to mix up your jellybeans. You’ve got a great product (that’s you!) – but you need to get in front of buyers to sell it. Even if you’re super fit, smart, funny, successful supermodel who’s just won a Nobel Prize, that doesn’t do you a lot of good if you live alone in the woods.
Meeting the same people won’t expand your pool. Getting drunk won’t expand your pool. Try a new hobby. Join a club. Travel the world. Move to a new city. Sign up for speed and online dating. These things are literally multipliers for the number of people you meet, and therefore for your success. Not all of them will work, but that’s not a reason not to try.
I'm so emotionally unavailable that I've just accepted I probably never will. It doesn't bother me so much anymore because I try not to think about it. So maybe try not putting so much importance on being in a relationship?
Change your words, change your life. You will receive what you believe. Tell yourself what you truly want on a daily basis, until one day you wake up with what you've proclaimed daily. It's hard, but trust me, it's worth it.