I'm 19 and have never been with, or gone out with a girl. I'm going into University in a couple of weeks and I want to have a girlfriend. I'm not desperate to have sex or anything, I just want a relationship but I have no idea how to talk to or approach girls. I'm fairly good looking, 6ft, in pretty good shape but i'm extremely shy. I just don't know what to say or how to start talking to girls I've just met because i have never done it before. There was a girl in my history class last year who I never spoke to who i thought looked cute and seemed sweet, she is also going to the same University i'm going to, but i have no idea how to start talking to her (I do have her on my facebook) if I were to run into her at Uni I wouldn't know what to say. I see all my friends sleeping with loads of girls and I don't want that, I just want a relationship, but I just don't know what to say.
Most Helpful Girl
Ok I got chu bro!!!
1 you wanna aim for friendship first... every guy prob came at her with 1000 ways to get into her panties game.. You wanna be different!! Be a gentleman and show you wanna get to know her...
2 Once friends go out a lot!! You wanna get use to hanging out so it will be a normal thing.. BUT U DONT WANNA GET THROWN INTO THE FRIEND-ZONE... o. o so throw off hints.. you like her.. "friendly flirt"
3 After talking for awhile getting to know her... go for it.. 50 50 either she liked who you are or she didn't o. o just be you.. all you can do...2
Most Helpful Guy
Alright Chris, lets do this! As a real estate agent, communication is the key to my business. Being i talk to people everyday via text, phone or e-mail... i can tell you that i could not do this job at 20... and why is that? Being able to approach people and talk to them did not happen over night but over a time period of practice.
So how do we transition from shy to being able to be comfortable approaching and talking to women? It starts with being able to relate to people. Rather than focusing on approaching the "cute" girl you'd like to talk to, i'd first by simply starting to talk to men and women of all sorts with the intent of good conversation and friendship.
- why? The same "get to know you" language you use with these everyday interactions is the same language you will use with a potential mate. Of course it will change a bit when you are approaching with the intent of dating but nevertheless, that comes later.
The better you get to know and understand women (through friendships) the better you will be able to relate with them.
So grow your sphere of influence // circle of friends and keep making connections with people, this will only allow you to flex your personable side and eventually leading you to being more comfortable with talking to women.