This dude is actively (and terribly) flirting with a girl who has been growing ever closer to me, and I to her. To the point where I might ask her out very soon.
I brought it up right after he left, and she said she's fully aware of his terrible flirting and also knows he's probably actually an asshole. So I'm not worried about losing her (even tho she almost seemed to encourage his flirting by offering him a dance lesson and such).
So my question is: could I get in trouble for threatening him to back off?
Was she dissapointed I didn't do that before or while he was flirting?
I felt like she was testing me and I really didn't do anything because I want her to be free to make her own choices.
Most Helpful Girl
Don't do that.
For one, you could get into legal trouble because you are an adult. Not only that, but you would look really insecure and territorial over someone who's not even your girlfriend. "A girl who has been growing ever closer" is not your official girlfriend therefore you don't really have a legitimate place or right to be acting like she is.
The fact that she hasn't done something about his "terrible flirting" says something. She's letting it continue to happen which is very evident by her encouraging him with a dance lesson offer. If she really wanted him to stop, she would tell him to stop or make it clear that she doesn't want to flirt with him/doesn't view him like that. She seems shady and sneaky for that.
Don't say anything to him. It will only make you look bad and it could lead to legitimate trouble. No, she wasn't disappointed; it honestly sounds like she's playing games and getting off on her ego by seeing you get so pissed off or she doesn't know which one of you she wants. She wasn't testing you, she was being a really tacky, attention seeking, careless person.0
Most Helpful Guy
You are jumping from saying nothing at all to threatening him? If you do anything at all, isn't there something in between?
As far as what she expects, or testing you. If she's testing you, I hate that kind of thing. That's very close to a deal breaker for me. If it's just normal flirting, she should be able to handle that herself. Women will have very different opinions about this. But for me, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt that she can handle normal flirting, probably much better than I could. If it goes too far, then I might jump in.1