I've been in a long-distance relationship for over 6 months now... I send my boyfriend pictures of me pretty often and I'd also send him some snaps every few days but his reactions are mostly very cold and he'd only reply with a few words... and sometimes he'd only use emojis.
Although I get lots of compliments from people telling me how gorgeous I look, even strangers would compliment me a lot. but deep down I tend to be very insecure about my outer appearance and my self-esteem is quite shitty tbh.
Is it normal for some guys to not get the urge to compliment their girlfriends and still find them attractive? i really need guys opinions on this!!!
Most Helpful Guy
I think the problem is more your insecurity. If you need your boyfriend to shower you with compliments or sentiments of love to feel validated, it tends to overlook the very obvious: he's with you so he wants you and he's attracted to you.
>> Is it normal for some guys to not get the urge to compliment their girlfriends and still find them attractive?
I'm one of those. I'll definitely throw in a compliment here and there, maybe once a month or two, but not repetitively. To me romantic gestures and compliments are something I save up my sleeve. I don't perform these routinely primarily to avoid making them a routine. To do so, in my mind, strips away their power and can start becoming meaningless actions.0
Most Helpful Girl
Compliments are cheap if said often.
I actually really appreciate my partner for saving them for special occasions or on lazy sundays when I am looking natural.
He isn't the type to comment via text or social media either but I guess its harder for you since its long distance.
So my advice would be to happily explain to him that you love hearing him tell you things instead of emojis. You like vocal appreciation. Not everyone does so let him know.
You are completely allowed to have this expectation just like a man might expect blow-jobs. Sometimes you do things for your partner just to make them happy but you got to tell them first!0