You exchange numbers and the first message is so we going to get naked. im not getting any younger but I have more respect for myself than to sleep with someone before even went on a date with them. I then thinking up a million ways to say not interested you're not my type or could just ignore them.
i often wonder if that's the reason I'm single is it because I won't sleep with a man first? I do have kids though I make it clear I don't want a daddy figure for them as they already have a dad, but at the weekends I'd love to go on a date.. I would be the happiest woman in the world if one man said to me- lets go out and do something, but none say that at all. That's quite sad. I like to give people chances I look beyond looks I'd rather get to know someone before having sex with them then I see their looks and think wow you are repulsive and ugly I wouldn't shag you if you paid me a million pounds, because they didn't give me a chance to know them they are only interested in one thing and I bet they think the same but just seeking out easy targets such as single mums for the deed.
Does this happen to anyone else? Or is it just me..
Most Helpful Guy
in my opinion, part of the reason is that YOU may not be being totally honest from the very start.
Granted, if you are meeting people on the street or otherwise in person as you go about your day, you can't always start every discussion with your wants and desires for a relationship, but, say, if you are meeting them online, then you'll have some kind of a profile where you can say "Look, if you're just looking for sex, look elsewhere, as I don't have sex outside of a committed relationship." That won't get rid of every guy (some won't read, some will read but either won't believe you or will think that they can convince you, and some are just stupid), but it will get rid of most of them, and help keep you from wasting your time. For the others, again, make it clear on the first date (early on) what you expect, and you'll minimize wasted time. Do NOT let yourself get attached to anyone until you've had this conversation.
Something you have to realize and accept: single guys are horny and want sex, and some of them are DESPERATE for it, and will say or do anything if they think it will help them get laid. Nothing you or I or anyone can do will change that, SO you have to factor it in. Further, understand that, for every one girl a guy is interested in having a relationship with, there are at least 10 others that he finds attractive (meaning: wants sex with) that he has zero interest in having a relationship with.
This means that YOUR job is to FILTER GUYS OUT based on your criteria, whatever they are. And THAT means that eliminating guys isn't a failure - it means your filters are doing their job and separating the guys you want from all the others. And, YES, that means you're going to have to eliminate some VERY ATTRACTIVE guys - guys you really like or want to like - because they don't want what you want. ACCEPT THAT, and the whole thing gets much, much easier.
Don't take it personally that so many guys just want sex with you - that simply means you're physically attractive, and that they are just looking for casual sex. That's it - there are no negative judgements against you, so don't take it personally.0
Most Helpful Girl
I imagine that it happens to more people than you think. People can easily get sex nowadays. Finding someone good to date requires a lot of time and energy though.1