Long story short:
Girl and I went on 2 successful dates, she was definitely interested. However, she later admitted she couldn't continue dating and wasn't ready for a relationship. She was incredibly depressed and wasn't over her breakup with her previous partner so I decided to give her space. The issue is that I kept asking her for clarification on how she felt (a bit pushy) and why she wasn't ready. We agreed to be friends, but whenever I asked her to hangout she flaked because she definitely knew I still liked her and had intentions to advance towards commitment. We rarely texted (once or twice per week) and I eventually gave her space for an entire month, but when I recently texted her to propose discussing the issue in person she said she needs space and can't be 'just friends'. I confirmed through friends that she did like me initially, I'm just concerned that I killed off that attraction. I took everything quite casually however and never tried to challenge her needs, so will giving her space and time potentially work? ("move on", yeah I know, but I'm just curious). I'm hoping that she needs me out of the equation to figure herself out and work out her ex situation, is this possibly the case? Thanks in advance!
Most Helpful Girl
Yeah :/ it does sound like she got turned off by you constantly asking her for clarification. I know why you did it because you really like her and wanted to be with her but she couldn't give you clarification because she was still sad and still dealing with the situation with her ex. If you ever happen to be in this situation again and someone needs their space, just respect them and give them their space, so that they can deal with what they are going through. :) I know it's a sucky situation to be in but at least you can learn from this and know what not to do next time. :) Plus, you never know maybe in the future you two will reconnect, Im not making any promises of this but you never know things can happen.1
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Most Helpful Guy
Totally. The moment she said she wasn't ready and you decided to give her space, that was when you should have stopped contacting her. You might have had a chance had you done that, but you've basically annoyed what attraction she did have for you away.0