I have feelings for this guys for over 3 years now. We've been on and off but never dated. Lost my virginity to him. When my friend asked me what my feelings for him are I didn't know what to answer. How do I know if I'm in love with him or if it's just a crush of mine?
What makes you believe that you're really in love and it's not just a crush?
Most Helpful Guy
You wouldn't question the degree of your attraction, if you knew this Guy well. You need more of a history together than "never dated".
To me, this Guy taking your virginity, without spending quality time with you, like asking you out for a nice dinner, going for some long walks together and sharing in each others pastimes, is a RED FLAG. If he isn't willing to just hang-out with you and get familiar with you, then how familiar could you be with him?
Having a variety of experiences together is the only way to truly gauge how compatible you two are. If your attraction is based on anything less than what takes much time together to learn and gain a deeper appreciation for each other from, then what your feeling is not Love.
I know you may not want to accept this. Please... be careful not to confuse your crush with having deeper feelings. It makes you vulnerable to some jerk that will take advantage of your not knowing the difference. He won't give a damn, as long as you'll have sex with him, believing your Making Love with him.1
Most Helpful Girl
I always thought that "John has a crush on Mary" means that John gets tight pants thinking about Mary and he really desires her a lot, but Mary knows nothing about his feelings. Love is something you do together and you both have feelings for each other.0