I thought it was weird and he got snappy when I asked if he was over her. (Because he already told me he was over her awhile back)
My friend told me "the fact that he trusted telling you that meant he was over her. If he was still into his ex, he wouldn't have told you".
What do you think?
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Most Helpful Guy
Overall, by just what you’ve posted, I believe it was a good thing. He trusted you enough and was confident enough in your relationship to confide in you that his ex attempted to contact him, and him getting snappy with you when you asked him again if he was over her, could just be because he felt perhaps offended you would even ask that question after he’s already trusting you enough to tell you what his ex did, and instead of you being happy he’s not keeping secrets from you----you question his motives----and if he’s the type, questioning his honor and his loyalty to you.
I’d suggest in the future give him the benefit of the doubt and take him at his word. Unless of course, he begins to behave in a manner that makes you doubt his motivations or sincerity. If that beings to occur then trust your instincts about whether or not he’s being completely honest and upfront with you, but barring such an event, you should cherish you’re with someone who is that trusting of you and your relationship to him to not keep anything from you, because he feels you can handle the information. Don’t reward such loyalty and honesty with negative reinforcement, but encourage such behavior to continue in the future between the two of you. That’s my bottom line.
Most Helpful Girl
This could be a good or bad thing and just don't expect anything from him. I started dating a guy, who wasn't over his ex (I should have just left it and not pursued him) and he told me how he had talked to his ex. I wasn't thrilled, but I was happy he was truthful. Turns out he had confused feelings and left me in the dark. A bad sign will be if one day he is over her, the other he is unsure. Definitely trust your gut instinct.1