Okay so I met this guy speed dating ( he's a few years older) and we both put down yes to each other in the friend column. I did this to seem less intimidating.
Anyway the next day our matches were released and he text me that night. Since then we've text heaps and been out with each other on 5 dates. All of these dates/hangouts have lasted 3-5 hours and have ranged from dinner, dessert, drinks, walking around, and even his house to play video games. He always pays or at least offers to pay, he has held the door open for me, pulled out my chair for me to sit down at dinner, he always initiates conversation over text and is always the one to ask me out, he's picked me up and driven me 30 mins to the place he wanted to take me to dinner etc
I'm beginning to like him but have no idea where his head is because he does all this amazing things and we connect on so many levels but there's no physical intimacy? The closet thing he's done is high five me during video games and placed his two hands on my shoulders when he was standing behind me and I was sitting down, and asked me to stay over because it was super late.
He's a nerdy kind of guy ( which I like) so maybe he's shy? If so what can I do to help things along? Should I hug him, start touching his hand etc?
Or am I just being stupid and does he only like me as a friend?
Any advice would be much appreciated
Most Helpful Guy
Duh? Because he does the work, maybe you should participate too and start doing your part too.
We men never know for sure when it's the right time. It's always a risk for - not lying - both men and women.7
Most Helpful Girl
No he sounds like he's super interested in you. He seems like he's a really great guy who's extremely gentlemanly. I just think he's taking his time with you and going slow because he wants to get to know you as a person before doing anything intimate or physical. A lot girls are looking for that in guy so instead of being worried I would definitely be happy, 5 dates is only 5 dates so as you continue dating maybe he feel or become more comfortable with you and start making romantic gestures. Not sex, but like hugging, kissing, or cuddling. That or he's waiting to get a signal from you that its okay to make a move..1