We've been together only 7 weeks, and I know he's close friends with a girl whose naturally very pretty. One evening, I revealed to him that I found girls attractive, that I appreciate their beauty and that I wouldn't say no to sleeping with them if it was with the right one. This revelation didn't phase him until I made a passing comment that his close friend (girl) was really hot, which he seemed taken aback at and seemed a bit uncomfortable. Did I cross a line? Would this be the same as me saying one of his male friends was attractive? I've never cheated, nor do I intend to get with his female friend. Thoughts?
Guys who aren't used to bi-women aren't sure what to make of you. Guys just assume that a bi-girl who is attracted to another woman will automatically go after them or that they have to compete in some way with others because of this. You saying to him that you thought she was attractive made him feel like you liked her and now she's competition. It's kind of like how some guys feel like if they are with a straight girl and they talk about another guy as being hot. I'm not sure if it's a masculine thing with him or it's just a straight bit of jealousy. But not many are comfortable bi/gay/les/straight/woman/man are comfortable with the idea of their mate being attracted to someone else. It's an ego thing I feel everyone has. People who are in love want to feel like they are the only ones for someone they love. So when you said that you are attracted to someone else besides him, he might of felt a bit jealous or like he wasn't good enough and things like this. The male ego especially is pretty fragile at times. Also, with you being bi he might be feeling like, if you are attracted to another woman, how am I going to compete with this. It's one thing to be attracted to another male, but another female, how can a guy compete with that. There are a lot of thoughts that straight people have that a bi/gay/les/etc person won't understand and visa versa. That's why communication is important for understanding to commence.
You say you've never cheated, and that you wouldn't cheat with this particular female friend of his. But on the other hand you do admit that you wouldn't say no to sleeping with the right girl. So if you and your boyfriend are in an exclusive relationship you've admitted that you are open to cheating. But if you're not in an exclusive relationship (are you in an "open" relationship?) and your boyfriend is cool with how you are I guess you're okay. Personally I could never knowingly date/be in a relationship with a bi girl. The "straight" part of her would presumably be satisfied by being with a guy, but her yearning to be with another girl would always be there.
I'd be fine with it so long as our relationship was solid, but lots of guys would not be. Also, there's a big difference between contemplating the fantasy - two hot women getting it on - and the reality of your girlfriend and your friend getting it on.
Oh wow I would dump you. It's already enough going on where a girl will sleep with another man like cheat and now you have to worry about a woman cheating with another woman. Not saying you would but you just doubled his worrying. I wouldn't marry you.
you have been totally honest with him so he must respect that. he is bound to worry you may go off with a girl but if you reassure him then im sure it will be fine. foe what its worth, i think you did exactly the right thing
"I brought this up because at some point I want to fuck with girls too, I hope you're understanding of this"
He thinks you don't really love him (or aren't really into him) and you are just using him to get to his friend. It would be pretty close to saying one of his male friends is attractive, not quite the same, but close. You need to do some damage control, spend some qt with him, and reassure him you only want him, and you never want to cheat, man or woman, even with this female friend!
Will you marry me? ... Lol my best friend is gorgeous abd we've hooked up a few times and my girlfriend is bi-curious and if she would mention that she wants to hook up with her I think my brain would explode from excitement. Unfortunately I can't really bring it up because my girlfriend doesn't really know we've hooked up in the past because she's kind of jealous when it comes to her. She's not jealous of anyone else tho just her and from when they first met so I was never able to bring it up without having to give up my best friend for literally 29 years
This is the problem I have with bisexual girls. They automatically assume that their sexuality turns guys on. Like "OMG my girl kissed another girl, that's sooooo hot!", when in reality, for most guys it's the same thing as cheating on you with a guy.
Admitting who you really are is never a mistake but if my woman told me this she would be getting her marching orders. I wouldn't willingly and knowingly date a bisexual woman, so I would send her packing.
I'm pan but if i was bi and i was going to tell the person i'm seeing about it i would just say i'm attracted to both genders and i would avoid commenting if i found a girl or a guy attractive. Because saying a girl is attractive is the same as saying a guy is, because you're bi (well, bi curious). I'm awful at explaining things, but you wouldn't like it if he said one of your mates is really hot.