We've been together only 7 weeks, and I know he's close friends with a girl whose naturally very pretty. One evening, I revealed to him that I found girls attractive, that I appreciate their beauty and that I wouldn't say no to sleeping with them if it was with the right one. This revelation didn't phase him until I made a passing comment that his close friend (girl) was really hot, which he seemed taken aback at and seemed a bit uncomfortable. Did I cross a line? Would this be the same as me saying one of his male friends was attractive? I've never cheated, nor do I intend to get with his female friend. Thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
Guys who aren't used to bi-women aren't sure what to make of you. Guys just assume that a bi-girl who is attracted to another woman will automatically go after them or that they have to compete in some way with others because of this. You saying to him that you thought she was attractive made him feel like you liked her and now she's competition. It's kind of like how some guys feel like if they are with a straight girl and they talk about another guy as being hot. I'm not sure if it's a masculine thing with him or it's just a straight bit of jealousy. But not many are comfortable bi/gay/les/straight/woman/man are comfortable with the idea of their mate being attracted to someone else. It's an ego thing I feel everyone has. People who are in love want to feel like they are the only ones for someone they love. So when you said that you are attracted to someone else besides him, he might of felt a bit jealous or like he wasn't good enough and things like this. The male ego especially is pretty fragile at times. Also, with you being bi he might be feeling like, if you are attracted to another woman, how am I going to compete with this. It's one thing to be attracted to another male, but another female, how can a guy compete with that. There are a lot of thoughts that straight people have that a bi/gay/les/etc person won't understand and visa versa. That's why communication is important for understanding to commence.0
Most Helpful Girl
It's a misnomer that all men think two women together is hot. You have to get to know the guy and what he likes before you reveal something like that honey.3