I've been dating a girl for about 2 weeks.
I enjoy spending time with her and I feel like we get along well.
She has told me that she has fun with me, thinks I'm cute and likes me, but for some reason she is always a bit flaky when it comes to hanging out.
Last week we were supposed to hang out and she couldn't stop talking about how excited she was...then she got sick. OK...she probably did so I'll give her a pass for that one.
Then we were supposed to hang out on Wed...and we did...but during the day before she hung out she said she might not be able to because she was busy at her internship. We only got to hang out for a few hours anyway because she had plans to go to a concert later. We got dinner and that was it. She acted super excited to see me prior to Wed, but once Wed came along I really thought she was going to bail. She didn't, but it still kind of made me upset.
And last night we had plans to hang out...and again, we did...but she seemed like she was going to cancel plans because she had to "go home to do laundry" and "write a paper." In fact she texted me saying how excited she was to see me and then a couple hours later when I called to say I was leaving for her place she said today may not be a good day...instead she changed her mind and I came over. It just kind of upset me because we had plans to hang out on Saturday since Wed night and she acted really excited through texts messages about hanging out...but then she almost bailed. We hung out with her friends...which I didn't mind, but I'd like to spend some "one on one" time with her because we still are getting to know each other.
If she really is as into me as she makes it out to be why does she do this?
Is she just trying to mess with me or what?
I like her and she seems to really like me, but I don't get it. She goes out of her way to text me and tell me how she feels about me with texts and whatnot.
I'm a busy person and I understand where she is coming from...but shouldn't the first few weeks of a relationship be the time you try to see each other the most?
So why does she tell me how much she likes me and enjoys seeing me, etc but act like she is going to bail every time we hang out?
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I wouldn't take this too hard just yet. I kind of know where she is coming from. I went through the same thing. She sounds like she is really busy. I bet she does want to see you. Did you ever think that maybe she is just so overworked and cannot handle all the pressure? I am guessing she is in school? I don't know your exact situation... but for me I would say things like oh maybe I shouldn't go anymore. I would even second guess seeing him anymore even though I really liked him. I know... it doesn't make sense. I just could not handle school and getting to know someone new. It was really stressful on me. So one piece of advice I would give you is just because she is saying these things does not mean that she is not still interested. It is probably the opposite. She may be thinking that she is coming on too strong, and that you don't actually like her as much as she likes you. Don't write her off yet! But if you stop talking to her she may think that she was thinking too much into your whole meeting and may run away from the situation. So continue talking to her... ask her if she needs some time for work... you should understand that. But don't stop talking to her unless you are absolutely sure.0