I finally asked a guy out, someone I've been wanting to for a while. I sent him a quick message, made it super casual (nothing creepy, didn't put pressure into a date) and no answer. This was last night and I saw he opened it but he said nothing. Obviously he's not interested but he could have at least told me. 😒
If it helps!! I told the love of my life through an email (lame I know) and she opened it and then said nothing. Snap chatted me the next day and then didn't talk to me for a year. I felt extremely stupid, miserable and depressed.
But no, don't feel stupid, you tried and that's more than the average girl can say. They usually pine and never ask. You did something courageous. So 👏 For you. He's a dickhead for just leaving you up in the air.
Though next time, I would try in person. 1milkion times scarier but usually it gets better results. Or well, u can at least see the persons reaction and know there interest level instead guessing :).
"Obviously he's not interested but he could have at least told me. "
That's not necessarily so.
First off, guys really don't like texting.
Second, this thing would have been better handled with a call because then you'd know the outcome immediately.
Third - and probably most important - guys (especially younger ones) are in new territory so they don't have the tactics down yet that we who are older know. What I am saying is that he wants to say and do the right things, but he wants to do it in the best way possible so he doesn't blow it. THIS IS ESPECIALLY SO OF "SHY GUYS" who have little experience. I am not saying that he is interested in you, but I'm not saying that he is not either. Give him a little more time to respond to you - another 2 days - and then follow-up if you have not heard from him.
Don't feel too much shame, it happens to us all. Most likely he was put in a position where he didn't know what to say and didn't wanna feel like he was being rude or on the off chance he's just shocked with amazement.
Was this on Facebook per chance? My ex would leave chat open the tablet all the time and show his messages as read when in fact he hadn't. I know because other people would complain about this while he was out with me.
Give the guy a chance to THINK about his answer to you. If he hasn't replied after 2 days, then you can rightfully assume what you already believe.
I admire your courage and risk-taking. Anybody girl or guy who has ever taken such a risk has at times been disappointed. It's no big deal but it is a big deal. I understand been there done that and makes it scary for the next time. In fact I think I did it three times and was successful once.
it's okay, it happens to us too lol. Just go out somewhere, post it on your social media and if you met him tomorrow, just casually pretend you're forget about the message and go out with other friends, and said afterward "but, you're not replying... so... i guess it's okay, right?"
at least that's how I handle the situation, by pretending it's not a big deal (eventhough the truth is I was freaked out)
give it sometime , play hard to get , guys play games so that if u text again they will call you crazy
You're not an idiot. You actually had the guts to tell him how you feel. He obviously doesn't feel the same way but now that shows you should move on and find someone that you actually deserve. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
He's rude for just reading it lol I would be like 😂 "I was just kidding anyway ewk." Play it off kooool like you didn't want him anyway