I told my crush how I felt and he ended up rejecting me. His family is large and very, very tight. Most of them like me but the few that don't (for reasons IDK) objected to us dating and he caved. I got along with all his family members and they've been warm and accepting to me all this time but I guess a few of them made it known to him in private they didn't agree to us becoming an item, even though he was very much into me. I suspect it's because we're not the same race but I don't have solid evidence of that.
He's a family-oriented kind of guy and I know their bond so I would never try to come between them in anyway or make him choose. But it really sucks and I'm still not over it. I fell for him hard, really hard. Like I was completely willing to make him happy for the rest of his life if his family agreed, but they didn't. I see them all the time and it's a constant reminder of what I can't have. Seeing them is unavoidable but I can't even bring myself to look in their direction. The younger kids still acknowledge me but the rest of them pretend not to see me and it's driving me crazy.
I feel like I'll never care about anyone as much as I did him and it's eating me up inside. Even had a few random flings to make it stop hurting but that wears off. So I put myself into the dating world. My requirements are low. I don't care about looks as long as there's attraction. I prefer a college education and that they're doing something with their life (same as me). That's basically it. But I'm constantly running into guys I'm not attracted to, boring, or who are doing absolutely nothing with their life or both. Nice they may be but their sitting on their asses or playing around with life and that's a turn off.
So should I lower my low standards to the bare-ass minimum and take what I can get even if it means being the primary provider in the relationship or keep holding out for someone better (who may not even exist) that I'll be happier with in the long run?
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Never settle for anything less than what you deserve. You shouldn't have to lower your standards. Learn to be happy on your own without having to rely on someone to make you happy. The right man will come along.2