She cheated on her ex boyfriend with his best friend (well he's obviously not his friend anymore). She seems really nice and sweet and it seems like she likes me too but this makes me very skeptical and im also really dissappointed because she didn't seem like the type that would do this. If I dated her I would probably eventually get paranoid and jelous (and im not even the type who usually gets jelous) but I can't help it and I still like her. Should I move on anyway because I dont want to get hurt in the future and I dont know if I can trust her.
Most Helpful Girl
This is a fear for anyone whether we know someone cheated before or not. The fact here is that you don't know what happened in their relationship to cause her to cheat. This happens even when you are married. Once two people are in an exclusive relationship, they fill a basic physical need. When that happens, they open themselves more to emotional needs. The best friend may have had time to reach her at that level which is a big attraction for women. Of course it did not last because men feel guilt and guilt from losing his best friend or causing his best friend pain, or just in realizing that he may not be able to trust this girl the way their relaship started may have played a factor in the eventual downhill spiral of this relationship. But, you are a completely different person. A new experience. Talk to her if you want to. If you find that you like her but can't trust her based on what you know, then you tried. But give her a fair chance.0
Most Helpful Guy
I'd go with move on anyway and because of the whole trust thing. But it's ultimately on you to decide. Logically it's the best option but I do understand that it's also very hard because you are infatuated by her. You can't just completely turn those feelings and desires off, can't erase them or anything, I know what a big pain in the ass that is. If only it was possible it makes it THAT much more easier to completely move on. But the more you are able to see her in person then the more you'll be thinking about her. It will take time to forget her. But you'll have to forget about her completely so you can move on to someone else instead. Someone that is trustworthy and does not have a bad reputation.0