My tinder date has a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

So I just went full detective mode on Facebook trying to find this tinder guy.
After about 30mins I found his profile. His display picture is with a gloriously beautiful girl and it says his in a relationship.
We have met for dinner once before and he has booked a hotel this Friday for the two of us. Apparently it's his birthday! Don't judge me please!
I fucking knew he seemed like a player and too good to be true!
But how should I go about this?
Stop texting?
Blast him over the phone?
Tell his Mrs? Help?

[molllll]

Hmmmmm. The only downside is that you're dropping yourself in it and will have to admit you've been slightly stalker-ish.
I suggest you give him an opportunity to come clean himself. Ask him about his previous relationship history, how long he's been single and how long was his longest relationship, etc?

I'd probably even take it as far as saying things like "I just find it so hard to believe you're single! You're lovely..." Etc etc. :) Or perhaps ask for his Facebook details so you can chat on there.

I wish you all the best!

[Glitz_Glamour]

I'd ignore him. People who manipulate , deceive you and play you only deserve your silence.

Most people you you meet online like that are not genuine. So I'd just cut all contact with him. He's not worthy of a second thought

[SarahsSummer]

SarahsSummer
Guru Age: 26 mho 20%




dont get involved with the misses or any of that drama. just drop him. If he persists in asking why tell him you dont date guys with girlfriends. and move on.

[redeyemindtricks]

nice address line, there 😂😂 All you're missing is "September 7, 2016 / To whom it may concern:"

[SarahsSummer]

@redeyemindtricks lol. I just noticed that. It was NOT intentional. I had actually posted my answer on the wrong question somehow but then cut and pasted it to the right question after. The cut and paste must've picked up the title stuff. Sorry if it appears Sarah is speaking in third person with grandeur. Lol.

[redeyemindtricks]

If you can get in touch with his girl, see if you can meet up with her... and then show up at the hotel TOGETHER.

Ahahahahaaaaaa the shit gon go downnnnnn

[crazy_eyes]

I like your style.

[Asker]

That is pretty tempting, but that's frightening as fuck!

[redeyemindtricks]

I feel ya, but... oh the thrillssss 😋😋😏😶

It'll be so worth it just for the look on his face ahahah. And think how good it'll feel to let all yr frustration out. A good screaming fit is sometimes all a girl needs #mmhmm

[redeyemindtricks]

SRSLY YOU SHOULD TOTALLY MAKE THIS HAPPEN. Do it do it do it do it do it.

The two of you should both dress WAY up, and look fucking *fabulous*. Own the place.
Then after you bitch the boy out together... you both turn tail on him at the same time, and... leave. With a sexy-ass walk, too. And not looking back at all.

Be the hottest thing that boy's ever seen... slamming that door right in his fuckin face.

Then go out and party together.

__

Here, I'll even give you an opening line you can use for conversations:

[• guy: what are you celebrating?]
• You: Oh, I just ended a 1-year (or however long) relationship.
[• guy: I'm sorry to hear that.]
• You: Oh no worries, it wasn't MY relationship.

😂😂😋🙃🙃😶💋💋❤️

Girlfrienddddd DO IT. Please do it.

[redeyemindtricks]

(oh, and make sure he checks into the room first and pays for it, and that it's too late for a cancellation/refund... bahahahaha)

[Asker]

As much as that actually sounds amazing an fun!
I don't know?

[redeyemindtricks]

Srsly do it!

You *could* be two very pissed-off people, separately... or you could party together.
That seems like an easy decision to me <3 <3

[Puppylove94]

That's what I said too!!! Omg I didn't even see your opinion haha seriously though his reaction would be priceless... You should do it OP

[redeyemindtricks]

@Puppylove94 #fuckyeah... and then getting all dressed up and having a new girlfriend to party with?
... all upsides, as far as I'm seeing it <3

[Puppylove94]

Exactly. This Fuckboy needs to learn his lesson. If you let it slide under the rug he'll keep his tinder and keep cheating on his girl.

[redeyemindtricks]

@Puppylove94 #mmhmm
Hell, I'm not even involved in this situation, and *I'm* pumped for this!
Two women together, both dressed to kill, both pissed off, and ready for some fun? Oh yeah.

ahh it'd feel so good for her to just get right up in that boy's face, and... *throw* those words at him. If a little spit flies off her lips

[Asker]

Shit, you convinced me to message her!
Oh my god! My heart is breathing!

[Asker]

Beating*

[Puppylove94]

Ahh let us know how it goes!

[redeyemindtricks]

Yesssss <3

[redeyemindtricks]

Just make sure you're *clear* that you're on HER side -- the whole "fuck yeah let's make this a party after we blow him off" thing.

Bc if she's not sure, then she might have a knee-jerk reaction to get defensive.
But if she *knows* you're on her side of this one? Oh yeah she'll be down. I hope it turns into one of the most fun nights of both of yr lives ahah.

[Smmyskittles]

lmfao. I laughed so hard, I actually started to cry. Picturing this in my head, the dude's face, and what's going to happen.

<3

[Asker]

She hasn't replied. Maybe I should get one of my guy friends to add her and ask if she's single?

[Puppylove94]

No don't do that. What did you say to her?

[FingerDancer]

Play it cool and very casual. When you see the opportunity in the conversation (before Friday) you may mention that you saw his facebook page. Do not go into any detail how you saw it, just make it known that you did. You no longer have any desire to continue into a relationship where you are merely a trophy, then swiftly depart any further communication.
Getting other people involved is not a valid goal, getting away is.

[OlderAndWiser]

This is what happens when you try to rush into a relationship. You need to be more careful with yourself and protect your psyche. Call him and tell him that you know about his girlfriend and the only way you will meet him is if you call her and get her permission. I suspect that will end the situation.

[Anonymous]

A woman going on tinder to find a relationship and being shocked when it's filled with guys who are just looking for casual sex is like a nun going into a strip club to find a reconciliation booth and being shocked when it's filled with under the table hand jobs...

[MrAtticusLebowski]

So kinda curious here, does any Tinder meet up ever go well for the women? I don't know... maybe do all those things. Also, maybe stop using Tinder if you're gonna' need to do a 30min background check on dudes. you meet on there.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure his FB is up to date? In any event, there's nothing wrong with being his side chick. Go to hotel with him and if he doesn't rock your world you can always dump him. And if you do a great job of rocking HIS world, he might upgrade you to main chick status.

[Mydnite]

you met him on tinder. what do you expect? if you want a relationship, go on eHarmony or something!

[cavmanier]

I would tell his Mrs so she can figure out what she wants to do.

[Puppylove94]

id tell his girlfriend and concoct a plan to meet up with him still but then the girlfriend walks in on you two.

[Polocrew]

Lmao yea right we both know how that ended for u lmfao

[Puppylove94]

@Polocrew pretty fucking well lol

[Polocrew]

Nahh you wwre pissing pants hour later doe lmao

[Polocrew]

Lol tinder, duh. But if you feel like you wanna drop a uppercut or something before u dip, send set a date and tell him you dtf or shit > screenshot ur convos to that girl > dip

[akadatank44]

Invite his Mrs to the hotel room. Hide her and say you're going to slip into something more comfortable and her she walks in lol

[Petr1992]

You're gonna be a one night stand... but that's none of my business...

[Anonymous]

Just text and say that you've met somebody you really like and then block his number. Leave him wondering what he did wrong.

[bubblly]

I support you

[Anonymous]

Yeah most guys today who can get women have side bitches. He most likely was recruiting you.

[den1219]

Tell his girlfriend and leave.
The chances are it's not just you he is seeing.

[CisScum]

I'd tell the girlfriend, fuck that guy. Tinder is full of douchebags anyways.

[Summer_Bunny]

Lmao sorry but it's tinder! I'm pretty sure no one met their soul mate on there.

[Anonymous]

Personally I'd tell his girlfriend … I know that I'd want to be told if my boyfriend was cheating

[yucel_eden]

Tell him to go fck himself and stop replying.

[yucel_eden]

But honestly, it's tinder what do you expect.

It's kinda your fault.

If you didn't know then 95% of guys on there are for hookups.

The only time I had tinder was when I wanted to hookup.

That's what the app is for just in case you didn't know.

For actual dating go on okcupid.

[Asker]

It's my fault? Holy shit, that's messed up man!

[yucel_eden]

No it's kinda your fault.

He's an asshole.

But you should know that app is for hookups.

What you did is like walk into a war zone and complain that someone tried to kill you. You walked into it

[Asker]

Hahahaha 😂

[Asker]

That really explains it! Thank you.
I actually deleted the app, I have been getting a lot of people telling me the same thing in very rude ways... So I guess they have a point. Thanks x

[yucel_eden]

Your welcome.

There is different apps for different types of dating.

Match. com is for marriage and serious relationships.

Okcupid is for serious dating without settling down. It's match. com for young people.

Tinder is for hookups. Just find someone to fuck and that's it.

[Anonymous]

Sure.. bust him out to his partner. I'd imagine a lot of these internet people are there to cyber cheat.

[dudegrt09]

Just hook up with him, it's not like you're the one who's cheating

[rogerthat123]

lol man

[NajemEddine]

your are the tinder girl
why are u so concerned

[Asker]

Lol fuck off with that bullshit!

[NajemEddine]

u mt him on tinder ite s an app for hookups
maybe they have an open relationship
either u go or say no

[Asker]

Are you drunk? Haha
But thank you for you help x

[NajemEddine]

buy some pepper spray

[Barrabus_the_Free]

You should stop being a psycho.

[Asker]

What do you mean?
This guy was expecting me to spend the night with him. I think I'm being very rational by wanting to know more about who he is. Obviously I was right to do this because he has girlfriend. I want to just ignore him, but I'm looking for some helpful advice on what I should do. Now give me good advice or you can fuck off!

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Wow, a psycho AND entitled. What a catch you are!

You're on Tinder. That says everything that needs to be said.

Just walk away. I'm sure you've flaked on at least a dozen other guys, might as well disappear on this one too. At least this time you've got a legit reason.

[Asker]

Ok thanks x