me and my boyfriend have been together almost 4 years now. I have been going to a csu about 2 hours away from my home town while he went to the jc in our home town. He is now transferring to a UC that is 9 hours away from me.
I use to come see him "EVERY" weekend besides finals. I did that because he didn't want me going out partying, he would get so mad if i even brought up the idea of me going out. He would say "only single people go out and party" or "why would you even want to put yourself in that situation" so i listened to him and didn't go out.( I go to the craziest party school in california so It was understandable)
- with his acceptance to this school he started to talk about joining a frat and I was totally against it because I see how wild they are where I live. all of the sudden things started to change. he starts wanting to go out with or without me and not telling me.(when we started dating he made me stop going out) so how he was acting was strange.
3 weeks left all he talked about was what frat he is going to be in and how many parties there will be. I would ask him why he is going out so much and why he's not telling me and why does he want to join this frat so badly, and he would say " we are just different people I like being social, I have to get ready for frat life" . He knew how I felt about the him joining a frat but he didn't really care about my opinion. I once begged him not to join and he said "I only do things in my own interest, I come first". I didn't even say anything to that comment.
Now he is gone we don't talk much because he is busy with frat stuff, school, or work which is reasonable but everytime I call him during the day he's with the frat boys and at night he is at the frat house having a party " with only boys, there is no girls here" (his words.) Some of my friends that have him on snap will call me asking if he "sent me that snap" and of course its a crazy frat party snap that I didn't receive.
(Should I be concerned?)
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unfortunately a lot of men are control freaks. now that he has other things to occupy his time you have become just an already conquored object. dump him and go party. within a week or two you will find he is a distant memory. live your life now you only get one chance1
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