It's often implied that its important for a guy to treat us girls like a priority, instead of an option, and that a woman has to be a prize. But I'm confused as to how to do this. I've been seeing someone for nearly 3 months, and I'm becoming frustrated because I never know when we're seeing each other next. He never initiates plans anymore, and most of his free time is spent with friends or working on his car. I have no issue with him doing either of those things, but I do make time for someone I like. We see each other once a week, and the last 3 dates were all initiated by me.
I've already communicated a month ago that things felt a little different between us, and at the time he had some personal problems to work through. I told him, if dating wasn't a priority at the moment, I'd rather know now before things became closer between us but he said he still wanted to date me.
We've become more relaxed again since I said that, but I still feel like I'm the one putting in all the effort. I don't want to jump the gun and confront him AGAIN but nor do I want to play games. Please help.
Most Helpful Guy
huh? excuse me. Screw that. Women are not the prize or the priority anymore. Maybe he is not interested in you anymore or doesn't find you attractive or something. Goodluck trying to get a man to treat you as a prize. Its 2016 so you better change than attitude quick0
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Most Helpful Girl
When we like people, we make time for them to see them, as that grows the amount we prioritise them grows. At first maybe you're below friends and job, as we start to fall for someone eventually that overtakes friends and maybe even jobs/hobbies, and we'll invite them along to those activities/outings, we'll organise to see them.
You can't MAKE yourself the priority. Either he wants you to come first (or at least somewhat important), or not. And I think you two are at different stages. The fact he makes NO effort? Is not a good thing. I mean I'd almost say he doesn't care at all.
I think you deserve better and if you've tried talking and communicating this (which should come first), should move on.0