I'm a Belgian girl currently studying in the States. Before I left for my summer break, I met a guy and we kinda fell "in love." It was a short thing, only some nights, we had no sex, but there was a lot of kissing and talking.
We were clearly crazy about each other and there were feelings involved. Somehow we lost contact over summer, but I couldn't forget him. He's not a person who likes texting and he doesn't have any social media accounts. Everyone I know would describe him as a bit strange (but still "cool") and different. Anyways, when I came back to the US I sent him two messages that I'd like to meet up and recieved no answer ( I know from mutual friends that he may have problems cause he quit his studies.) Three days ago I bumped into him. I tried to hide my nervousness while we were with a few mutual friends. I also ignored him because there were so many people around us that know about us so it was a pretty awkward situation.
But when I wanted to leave he said he wanted to talk to me...
The first thing he said was that he received my messages. Then he said that he was really busy over the past few weeks but that he'd love to meet up with me again. I tried to show no emotions as I was simply shocked and tried to hide my feelings... He said again that he'd want to see me again but that he might be busy the next couple of weeks, but he said he would text me. It was maybe a 30-60sec talk and we were walking so he didn't really look me in the eyes or anything, but as I mentioned above, he's def not like most guys I know.
I don't think that he's an asshole but well, who knows. I think he's having a lot of difficulties with his life right now (don't think he's really busy.) I also really appreciate that he came to talk to me. I'm pretty sure something will happen sooner or later because what we experienced before I left was unique.
by the way, he's 22, I'm 25.
I just hope to hear from him soon as I'm getting crazy & need some support / want to hear your opinion!!
- Just wait, he may be busy / confused but he likes you70% (21)
- It's just an excuse30% (9)
Most Helpful Guy
Considering what you've posted and without any additional input on the situation, I would personally have to agree with your assessment and let's give him the benefit of the doubt. He's already come to talk to you to assure you he's interested in meeting up and getting to know you more and hanging out, so that's one step in the right direction.
Now he could be busy and he could not be. Granted he could have taken some time before now to answer you back and give you that consideration, but let's just go ahead again and give him the benefit of the doubt and believe he's really been busy and now's the only chance he had to get back to you.
That being said, I feel you should wait and give it a chance to work. You've already admitted that you feel an attraction to him, the short times you've spent together have been unique and special to you, therefore there's no reason at this juncture to start letting your imagination get the better of you and 'borrowing trouble' as the saying goes.
Wait and see if he responds and gets back to you about a meeting time and place and then if that happens go meet up and trust your instincts about how you feel when you're with him and what he says. If you begin to feel like something's wrong or not on the up and up or if you get the impression he's leading you on, then trust your instinctual reaction and trust what you're heart is telling you.
Don't try to ignore what your heart and mind are suggesting to you, and be true to yourself and who you are. Remember, in the end, you have to do what's best for you and what's going to make you the happiest. Don't force yourself into something, because of past experiences, but go with the here and know and do what feels right to you. That's my bottom line.1