If the girl gets help and seems committed to her own health then I don't see a problem.
Most Helpful Guy
in my opinion, anyone who is at that level is not ready for a romantic relationship with anyone. A relationship requires both people to have strength, to make an effort, and to be able to give and sacrifice at times. You're probably not mentally prepared to do that right now - which is understandable. I wouldn't expect to take someone with a broken leg skiing or mountain biking either.
You need to work on healing those injuries (even though they are mental/emotional, they're no less real than a broken bone or a huge cut) before you're healthy enough to date. Remember too that expecting him to deal with your depression and so forth is essentially like expecting him to do surgery to repair a badly broken bone - he's not a doctor, and not equipped or prepared to deal with that.
You need professional help for a while, and until you've had it for a while, and healed to the point that you are much more healthy mentally/emotionally, the right thing to do is to NOT date.0
Most Helpful Girl
I hope she gets help. But no, it isn't shallow. Getting into relationships like that can be rough. Its not anyones job to be their partners full emotional support.1