Is sex the first priority for guys?

So, I chat with this guy and we feel good about each other and he planed to come to see me in the next few months.

We exchanged photos but not nudes or anything, just selfie and stuff but there are sexual conversations going on but not explicit.

Even though I like him, I don't want to have sex with him or anything yet, it still feels too soon but he implied it pretty often that he will come to see and have sex with me.

I don't care about his appearance much he's good looking and not too fat, he has like little tummy but I'm fine with that, or maybe he just passed for me already but he's the one who concern about it.

He told me that since we planed to meet he started to go out for running and stuff and kinda implied that he want to get ready for upcoming sex with me, that impressed me that he dedicated his time, I appreciate that.

But without saying I know he expected me to be in a good shape too, I'm not ugly and not fat, he saw that, but somehow I started to feel bad with my body shape. I feel like I need to be pretty for him?

But I feel uncomfortable with it, I'm okay with myself until we met, and if it's good relationship, does it matter for a guy at all that their girl need to be sexually attractive, I don't want that, to be good-looking is okay but to make myself sexually attractive is just not me. I feel like it won't ended up well if we just plan to come to having sex, I feel no love in it.
I like him but I don't know why do I hate that he seems to care too much about sex.

The questions are :
- Am I clueless about a guy? Is this normal for you guys to want sex more than anything?
- Does it sound like good long-term relationship for you?

Its pretty long if someone actually took time to read at all, I would be very thankful for that.


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Most online dates end up being hookups. You should tell what your plans are for when he comes to see you and you meet so he doesn't have certain expectations. Tell him your excited to see him and hope they have a good time but sex is off the table since you don't have sex with people you just met and don't know much about.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • If the guy is serious about you, he will be willing to wait.

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What Guys Said 3

  • Sex is 'A' priority to every guy who isn't asexual, but not necessarily his 'FIRST' priority.

    It varies greatly from guy to guy how high on his list of priorities sex is.

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  • It used to not, but since in my experience women make it too hard to get. It becomes just that. I am a good looking guy, but that doesn't seem to help

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  • yes.

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What Girls Said 1

  • Just be upfront about the no sex, don't wait for signals!

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