Ok, let me word that better. I see people on here say "Oh we got into a fight and it turned physical. We've been together for over 5, 10, 15 years and this argument got especially heated. Should I leave him?" and I wonder "it was just one time and there's not a pattern of violence there. Why not let it slide this once? It seems normal enough"
Most Helpful Guy
I think it's because of the few that the violence might escalate or become more frequent over time which can happen. My girlfriend has slapped me or thrown things at me a couple of times but she wasn't trying to hurt me properly and I know it's not gonna escalate so it's no big deal, plus I probably deserved it.
I also think it's just to do with how much we're taught to abhor violence in modern society. It depends on upbringing too I suppose. I was always taught never to hit women but if someone hit me to hit them back twice as hard and look after myself like my parents were taught. Obviously I'll see it differently to someone who was encouraged to tell the teacher or ring the police over even a tiny bit of violence. I think some people are a bit OTT with it.0
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Well it shouldn't "seem normal enough" if you ask me, and people contemplate leaving typically because violence, no matter how rare, can be a precursor to more violence in the future. Once you dip your toe into the pool you may just like the temperature a little too much and take the plunge.
However, I get what you're saying. You don't necessarily have to break up with your husband or wife of fifteen years if you receive a little shove in the middle of a super intense argument. However if someone say, punches you square in the face, that's more of an offense that shouldn't be taken lightly.
Either way, violence in a relationship shouldn't be tolerated, and if it happens, once or not, it needs to be addressed and if it continues then it's time to go.1