I have been dating this guy for 4 months now and things are going pretty well. We really enjoy each other's company and we care deeply for each other. One of the biggest issues I have is that his ex-girlfriend works in the same place as him and they belong to the same group of friends and interact on a daily basis. They are even friends and catch up with each other regularly at work.
They both have moved on and he seems to be happy with the relationship that we have. I know that I should not let sporadic text messages between them bother me but it does!
He has also been really honest about the whole thing but I still feel that he has some feelings for this girl and it does not help that he sees her everyday. She recently got into a relationship and I know that my boyfriend is not too happy about that, he tries to act nonchalant but it bothers him that she is with someone else now.
I really do not know what the solution to this problem is but it bothers me a lot, and I feel like given the chance he would have liked to stay with her. It is again just a feeling, because she is so integrated in his life and I can never be that person. It makes me feel very insecure about the relationship because she also understands parts of his life and work that I never will no matter how much he tells me about these things.
I know this is sort of like obsessive behavior and I am scared that if I keep talking to him about it he will give up on me too. I really like this guy and this whole thing scares me no matter how hard I try not to worry about it and to accept her as a part of his life which is over with now but the constant contact does not let me forget that. What can I do about this?
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Bless you.. I completely understand why you feel a bit paranoid. However it boils down to trust! You just need to trust him, without trust then there is no point in being with someone. If he works with her and has the same group of friends then unfortunately they probably will see each other a fair amount. Just continue to make sure your relationship is good- date nights etc and you should go out with him and his friends.. If for some reason something did happen with the ex then good riddance but they are exes for a reason! X0