So I started college about a month ago, and I just feel like girls never show me interest. Whether it is outside of school of inside of it, I feel like no girl likes me. i get no attention, no looks, no questions, absolutely nothing. And to make things worse, I have my dad telling me that I'm great looking and this and that. If I am so good looking, then y don't girl like me? If I have such a good personality, why don't they talk to me? I don't believe I am ugly, but I don't believe I'm "hot" either. I am average looking, at least in the location I live in. It just annoys me to no end, and it kinda depresses me. I see dudes that have bigger issues with insecurity and life in general and they get girls and girlfriends but me I don't get shit. And I understand that it might not be my time yet, but why does it have to feel like this? It doesn't make sense to me.
by the way I'm an 18yo heterosexual male who has never had a girlfriend. You were correct if you assumed I'm a virgin too.
I just want a girl to give me an opportunity, if indeed there's one out there that likes me. At least look at me a few times so I could approach you first. I got no problems approaching girls if I feel like they are interested. However, on the other hand, I refuse to approach a girl that I won't be able to gauge interest (or lack thereof) from.
Most Helpful Girl
Hey you're 19.. it's all good :)... I mean I don't know you or your personality so I can't give my two cents. Are u outgoing? Shy? Maybe make eye contact with a cute girl in class or something, you don't even have to talk if you're shy but that will make her feel comfortable approaching you if she likes you. Be confident but not cocky.. that's always a good one. Nothing is a bigger turn off than arrogance for me at least. Just be yourself. I didn't have my first real love till I was 18 & in college. It's all good! :)0
Most Helpful Guy
"I refuse to approach a girl that I won't be able to gauge interest (or lack thereof) from."
That's you problem right there. You have imposed this gateway that blocks your progress. A gate way of your own making. Which is built of your own fear, and a desire to never face rejection.
But that's the thing guy, EVERYONE faces rejection. And we learn to deal with it, because it doesn't hurt as much as the fearful think it will.
You need to get over that, and approach and flirt with girls you like the look of. Because that is how you will judge their response and see what they think of you too.1
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