For the first time I've seen my boyfriends ex and she is a very skanky looking girl. I thought he had higher standards than this. I don't mean to be mean but she wears little clothing, very heavy makeup that's caked on. hair extensions that are visible, speaks like she was dragged up. It's turned me off a little the thought of him being with somebody like that.
I've seen his other exs and they seem like lovely girls but this one is his most recent and was with her for 2 years. I didn't expect to feel grossed out.
If your girlfriend / boyfriend dated somebody tacky would it make you see them differently?
The past is irrelevant, I dont care who a person has been with while they are with me. He might have seen something in her that you can't. Men are like that, we dont place as much stock in things like makeup and clothing as women do. I mean for goodness sake there was a survey completed recently by twitter that found that overwhelmingly it was women that shamed other women, not men.. If you really like him do the adult thing and forget about his past. If you can't, you're not ready for a real relationship.
It wouldn't really make me view them differently, I admit when I found out my ex cheated on me, it was with this chick that I KNEW but I couldn't even recognize her at the time anymore, her blonde shiny hair turned into an orange burnt mess, her skin was full of acne due to so many drugs she was using, she didn't look clean, finger nails so dirty, I was grossed out and told him at the time that never mind him making out with her but he had sex with her and then me, making me feel absolutely dirty lol.
they are all exes for a reason is the way I think and I'm with him now. I've seen pics of some of my guys exes and he doesn't really have a "type" I giggle at some of them like you dated THAT? but others I'm like wow, she's beautiful, do you still want her? Try not to get caught up in the exes, you dont know if he was just going through a phase. It is what it is. Just remember the things that made you fall for him.
I get where you are coming from but there's nothing you can do about it. Decide if this is significant enough to end your relationship with him. If not then try not to think about it. She's his ex after all.