This includes appearance, approaching, attitude, manners, education, everything. Not just getting up the nerve to ask someone out.
- Women, they have to deal with self maintenance and looking good all the time46% (444)12% (124)28% (568)Vote
- Men, they're paying for everything and do all the approaching28% (276)72% (753)51% (1029)Vote
- Other26% (251)16% (168)21% (419)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
We have to deal with Approach Anxiety and REJECTION. If a man has poor skills, he can be labeled a "creep".
Dating expectations are very lopsided. Men have to approach. Pay for dinner, drinks, movie, etc. And women still complain that Men just don't approach them. Well, I wonder why!
The world is becoming increasing anti-male. Young Men going to Universities in the U. S. are being told they are potential Rapist.
In Nottingham, U. K., a man can risk going to JAIL for approaching a woman. The Misogyny Law in Nottingham reads as follows...
“Unwanted physical or verbal contact or engagement is defined as exactly that and so can cover wolf-whistling and other similar types of contact.
Most Helpful Girl
I think women are already aware of just how important looks are to men. Women, being traditionally on the receiving end of being asked out etc., feel a disadvantage and therefore already put a lot of effort to improve the chances of being pursued. However, a lot of men that I know, aka the "nice" guys, constantly complain of how women "pass over them". The biggest factor I've noticed with these guys, and it really isn't about them not having 'looks', is their attitude, like they shouldn't have to put in an effort to attract the opposite sex and project an attitude "well you clearly are superficial because you won't look twice at me". I was talking to a younger friend of mine and he was telling me how his friends (who are my age/older than he by a few years) think they aren't attractive enough for women yet he hears the women they are speaking about say that the guys won't ask them out. And I told him: every single one of these guys are out of shape which is a controllable factor, yet they do nothing about it. These guys are all somewhat 'nerdy' yet never attempt to hold a conversation with these girls because they presume they don't have the same interests (which I know the people on both sides, puh-lease, you can either a) connect over something in common or b) connect by learning about each other's interests). I'm seeing a lot of lack of initiative, and a lack of self-reflection. Women are painfully aware of what they have and don't have to work with. We all just need to put our best foot forward, and if you don't like something about yourself either a) fix it and don't blame others for not doing something about it and b) if it isn't changeable, rock it as a unique part of you or minimize it and maximize your other assets that you love about yourself.2