I like a co worker. I told him how i felt via message. He said "Thank you for seeing me as a good person. To be honest i just want to be friends. Nothing will ever effect our friendship" Cause i told him i did not want it to be awkward with each other.
We flirt and tease each other and joke with each other alot!
Still do even after telling him how i felt.
i should of expected that response. He had told me he had a troubled past (Drugs, Alcohol, you name it) and he turned his life around in last three years. He said he also lost 'the love of his life " to having this troubled past. other co workers told me he is probably very insecure right now and doesn't want to get hurt again. so he's acting like a total bachelor but he's not really. Like he will be like all the girls want me. But then he will put himself down after he says it. like he says stuff like ' i dont ever want to live with a girl" "Girls are too crazy to handle"
So what do you think i should do?
I want to be sexy and flirty with him so he's like damn ! and maybe change his mind? or see me more than a friend. Co workers have said i give off more a friend vibe to him. and i joke and tease as a friend. Not someone who likes him.
But i want to stay friends with him too! , i am scared ill always be a 'Friend" and when he decides he is finally ready for a relationship and a girlfriend he won't like me or whatever.
Most Helpful Guy
No it doesn't, all you have to do is be a good friend, respect his boundaries and always be there for him and if he's attracted to you at all he will come around. You just have to give these sort of things time especially cause of his past and stuff.1
Most Helpful Girl
Don't waste your time waiting for him to maybe one day decide to like you. Remain friends but don't let it keep you from finding someone else. There may come a day when he decides he's ready or there may not or he might find someone one day.1