Why do women flake on dates?

I noticed that women cancel dates at the last minute or don't bother to show up (and justify it with family emergencies or late work). Sometimes, they tell the truth. But, sometimes, they just avoid me. Why is that? If they don't want to go on the date, why not say no directly? Why create a false scenario?


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Most Helpful Girl

  • Asker: Have these women asked to rearrange after blowing you out?
    Hasn't eveyone created a false scenario to cover up the truth to some degree (a little white lie)?

    "Sorry mum, I can't come over because I've just had my hair done. You know what this weather's like"

    It's not right that someone has flaked out on you at the last minute. You certainly deserve the truth but in reality that rarely happens to most of us. Maybe there is some truth in what they're saying because you never do know.

    I've on occasion blown someone off because I've had a bad day at work etc. I generally do say that though because it is a genuine answer! Sometimes though it doesn't quite cut it so I might say it's my time of the month and I'm having some discomfort! Let's rearrange?

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Some guys are freaks, and don't take No well at all.
    Some guys don't show how crazy they are until they've accepted the date.

    If the girl says yes on Wednesday to a date on Saturday, the guy has two days to fuck it up by doing something crazy, like sending her 200 roses, a mariachi band, getting her face tattoo'd on his chest, that sort of thing.

    Now, I've chosen extreme examples to make the point. But you need to ask yourself - what are you doing (or not doing) before the date which might cause them to reconsider.

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What Girls Said 4

  • they are either selfish liars who never intended on going out in first place or had something better come up. OR it could be because they are just plain scared, nervous, etc and don't know how to call it off

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  • Sometimes women can just be scum.

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    • 2mo

      I totally agree!!! they all want a REAL friend and a REAL man but are fake as he'll themselves and can be back stabbing, two faced cum dumpsters

  • Because they feel horrible to just say no?
    Hoping that you will get the message?
    When a girl cancels a date like that and never suggest you one, means she never really was interested from the beginning. Don't even bother thinking about them move on.

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  • the truth is we are nervous.

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What Guys Said 11

  • Different girls for different reasons, but most of the time it boils down to them not wanting to go in the first place or they don't feel the same way the day of as they did, when they originally said yes. It's not uncommon for a girl to be all hyped up and say yes to whatever plans you mention one night, then when you text her the next day she forgets or doesn't feel up to it because that same excited energy she had that night isn't there the next day. Also, keep in mind. Some girls really are just airheaded and never really get their lives in order, because they just forget so much.

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  • Because at first they probably just said yes to you so as to not come off as a bitch but flaked at the last minute because they thought that changing their mind right after saying yes would be worse than saying that an ''emergency'' came up.

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  • Because they're shitty people and you're better off without them. When this happed when I was younger I accepted it once and gave them a second chance. If it happened twice, I nexted them. No more chances, no talking, etc. I viewed them as unworthy of my time and it was their fucking loss. I cut them off regardless of the reason.

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  • Person can't 'man up' and tell you ahead of time, can't deal with any sort of conflict/confrontation.

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  • Most modern women are dating multiple men. We are in the throw away society so it is not really flaking. She meets you then a few hours later or a day she meets another guy that is taller and makes more money than you and knows how to say all the right things to play her and the next thing you know she cancels

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  • They are sneaky little fucks.
    Anyone who does this is usually insecure or they like to lead people on thinking its better than refusal...
    I've had both guys and gals do this one to me...

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  • They're immature chickenshits afraid of confrontation and they know they can get away with it.

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  • Maybe they changed their mind when they saw you or something

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  • I would not want to go uit with these people anyone.

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  • maybe they found a better guy in the meantime
    or they weren't that interested anyway and something else got on their shedule like shopping with a friend

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  • why do men do the same?

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