I'm in a relationship with someone who I am very emotionally connected with and I still have personal space. I just take personal time to myself if that's something I need, but if you act emotionally distant it's a clear indicator that you aren't connected to that person on an emotional level, which can heavily impact your levels of communication, affection, etc.
If you don't want to be emotionally close then in my opinion it's better to just be single.
Because the biggest part of a relationship is feeling that connection. That closeness with another person. Being emotionally distant is choosing to not share that with your partner and it's perhaps the most important part of to a relationship.
Most people that get into relationships (assuming they aren't with the person out of fear or necessity) do so they can relish in that feeling. That's how you grow together and grow closer. Usually emotional distance is coupled with a breakup shortly afterwards.
There's nothing wrong with personal space. Just as long as you and your spouse are OK with such amount of said space between you. Some people want to be close all the time, and other's want to do their hobbies on their own and then come together for specific dedicated time. It's truly dependent on what the healthiest manner is for both you and your SO.
Personal space is important, however, being in relationship is much more inclusive than that. Making excuses like this will not add anything in fact it will hinder the growth. It is understable to have space, but when you don't communicate with your partner... well then you have a shit relationship.
You want to be roomates? where you share equal responsibilities... but often time things aren't divied up so evently? Without emotional security, safety and closeness it is harder to be in the same place than it is to be single. That said, there is nothing wrong with having your own space at times, we all need that... especially us introverts.
The question makes me think you have some emotional wounds you will have to deal with to have a good relationship.
Having a space is fine. Being distant is not. At some point, people in a relationship have to trust each other and share their lives, to the point there is few to no individual space, because there is enough trust to share nearly anything. Of course people are gonna have their secrets and stuff, but most of that kinda goes away.
I absolutely agree. I'm dating a younger girl who wants to know everything about me and I'm not an open book. I think just because you are intimate with each other doesn't warrant the other to demand full "marriage-like" commitment.
thats just an excuse people come up with to cheat or to break up, so anyone who thinks they want space in a relationship shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. and are obviously not in love at all.
There's a difference between having personal space and being distant. The former is when you reserve time for yourself but you still gladly share it with your SO whenever you can. The latter is when you want to spend little time with them.
There is nothing wrong, some people just fell insecure when there is some space and start paranoia "Does she still likes me" "Is she cheating on me", "is she flirting with other dudes" "Does she think im bad at bed?" those kind of questions that insecure people tend to have in a relationship the more space you have the more insecure they get. Is not your fault, but you can't really blame them.
No point in being in a relationship if You are emotionally distant...
Personal space is a different thing... But being distant from them for a long time means the relationship is over already... Plus you won't be able to have a proper relationship your whole life... Relationship is not a joke... it takes work... You have to be close to that person...
The whole point of a relationship is to be emotionally connected with your partner. If you prefer being emotionally distant but still want sex just consider having casual sex. Im similar to you where I like being emotionally distant to others. Doesn't help that a majority of emotions I feel are other peoples emotions.
Its wrong because real relationships have an emotional connection. Im currently in a more casual relationship, and the reason for that is because we are not emotionally connected, like at all. If we were we would probably think about pursuing a relationship.
Emotional connection is being able to turn to your partner when you need them, like when you're going through something tough. Im not gonna go to my casual partner and pour out my upset feelings about someone who's dying or if Im going through a rough patch in life, thats the thing I will do in a relationship, I can rely on them to be there for me. That is emotional closeness. If there isn't any of that then why are you really in a relationship to begin with?
You can absolutely be emotionally close with someone and still have personal space. Emotional closeness does not mean to be lovey dovey all the time, neither does it mean to be completely be up someones business all the damn time. In fact someone who is emotionally close to a person will most likely understand when their partner needs their space because they understand them and know them truly as a person.
Lastly, the definition of relationship is "the emotional and sexual association between two people". So if you take away the emotional parts of the relationship then all thats left is the sex and with just that you're better off as a casual partners. Take away the "sexual association" then in my opinion we'd be better off as friends. Emotional connection in my opinion is vital in any "healthy" relationship.
However everyone's preferred relationships differs between individuals, so people who don't like to be open in a relationship at all would be best with someone who isn't open as well. There needs to be compatibility. And only then is it acceptable to be emotionally distant in a relationship if your partner likes that as well.
Personal space means not snooping and looking into your s/o's e-mail or text message conversations without them giving you the okay. Being emotionally distant means acting non-interested. Not answering their phone calls, not being receptive to any affectionate gestures made by them like a kiss or a snuggle.
What's wrong with being emotionally distant? I can only imagine my boyfriend not enjoying a kiss or cuddling if he was emotionally checked out. Relationships are something formed by two people who care for each other (emotionally), not just sexually. So you should be able to connect the dots on your own at this point.
If your with someone and you want to stay committed and its serious then you should also be emotionally invested its just as important as being physically committed to your partner, I mean whats the point of being in a relationship with someone if you can not emotionally connected... most people connect on a emotional level before a physical level.. also how would you work out trust issues or any problems in general if you could not emotionally be present... to me there is no point of a relationship if both parties are not emotionally involved, love itself is based off emotions and physical attraction... otherwise all you have is a business arrangement.. while you need to present in a relationship and give and take, everyone NEEDS to have some sort of personal space and time to themselves if you never do then you will go nutts, everyone deserves "me" time but to a extent and that being said people still need to respect there partners wishes and feelings while having me time... sometimes people will take "me" time and space as a insult or think automatically they are cheating but in fact in a healthy relationship when things are communicated properly this tends to happen a lot less.. so I say if you need "me" time then take it, and if you need space communicate properly to your partner, but if your emotionally disconnecting/distancing yourself more then you are present then there is a bigger deal to look at
I think being emotionally distant and wanting your own space are two different things. There's nothing wrong with wanting your own spacing. I truly understand that. One minute I'm all cuddly, the next I'm reading a book or sitting outside by myself and any human interaction is like a fly buzzing around me. The issue with being emotionally distant is that you still have another persons feelings to consider. It's your partner and the whole reason of being together is so you have someone share your soul with I. e. your emotions. Not doing this (at least with any caring person) makes them feel less or as if their not doing anything right. Take all the space you need just remember them at the end of the day and never take them for granted.
Being emotionally distant is not the same as having personal space. Being emotionally distant leads to a partner feeling lost and alone and unloved. It's often when you won't open up or express love or show any basic form of affection which most people need when in a relationship. Having personal space doesn't make the person doubt your relationship or feel insecure.
Nothing, if you don't mind them cheating on you or leaving you at some point. People crave intimacy in both the emotional and physical sense. When you isolate yourself and intentionally put up walls, you push them away. Being yourself and having a private side is one thing; being emotionally distant though is just harmful.
You need to be somewhat emotionally close to be able to form a romantic relationship. Otherwise it can't qualify as such. So yeah being too distant is a bad thing. Cause in a healthy relationship you need to have that close emotional connection.
Space and being emotionally distant are two different things. Everyone needs their space but if you are purposely avoiding your SO by not sharing your thoughts or feelings (pretty much leading them to think that you are not interested) then thats horrible and you should not be in any relationship if you can't be open and honest. Thats part of the point of being in a relationship, to have someone to confide in and trust.