Everyday. Before work (at 5am) and after work (a few bowls a night). I am not anti-weed, by any means. I think it's a great addition to any party. But it's beginning to feel like too much. He says he won't stop (or even cut down) if we have kids someday. Is this a dealbreaker?
Yeah he has to go and the sooner the better. And I'm not just being so some uptight prick because I smoked my fair share of weed about 36 years ago. There comes a point when one has to grow up and apparently your boyfriend is nowhere near that and won't be for a long time. To make matters worse smoking weed now is a lot more expensive than when I was a kid so the money that he should be saving for things like retirement or a home or for a future marriage and kids is being burned every night in a joint or a bong or a bowl. You deserve better and you deserve it now.
Yeah, my best friend became like that and we just aren't really friends anymore, for more reasons than that but it played a huge part. I don't have a huge problem with weed, but people who need it to get through the day. Do what you want, but we just can't be friends. People who do it at that extent just aren't the people I want to hang out with. My SO smokes a decent amount which I don't love but I have no business telling him he can't, just please don't be high when I come over or do it around me unless we agree to it. I think he's being kind of selfish to you. If smoking bothers you and he knows it, he should be respectable and take into consideration what you're saying. I think he needs an ultimatum. If not, he needs to go. Because he doesn't care about his potential children enough to give up something like that, or even cut back.
That's a tough situation. I had a girlfriend who smoked weed a fair amount, and me being someone who doesn't do drugs it was difficult to decide what to do. I stayed with her because I liked basically everything else about her and she didn't smoke cigarettes which I'm completely against, so I let it slide personally. However had it ended up being a long term relationship, I definitely would've wanted her to stop or at least cut down significantly (especially considering she would've been carrying our child). I'd say have a serious talk with him, if you don't want your future children to have a parent that's high half the time (which really is unfair to them) you may want to consider moving on.
Back in my early 20s I was a heavy pot smoker. And I'm so glad I quit my clarity my motivation and my life is a lot better. I'm certainly not against anyone smoking weed but doing it all day every day can become an issue. I would really consider talking to him and seeing if this is going to be a forever thing or if he's going to grow out of it.
You can make all the subtle suggestions you want but he will not curb his habit on your account. He has to make that decision on his own. Children, weed, and responsibility do not mix. Did I need to write that?
It depends. I don't want kids and the girl I'm banging is smoking hot, loves to get high on weed, and she also doesn't want kids. Her previous exes hated she was a pot smoker because they wanted kids. Lucky me! For your situation, which is really common sense, would be a resounding YES!
It is if it is for you lol. A few bowls is a lot.. do you mean a few hits? I hope.. If this is something he isn't willing to compromise on and it's important to you, then yes it can absolutely be a dealbreaker. For me, it is when it hinders him from like work or if it makes a negative impact on our relationship or puts a strain on finances.