Sometimes the direct approach comes off as insincere or with poor intentions. When I think of guys with "game", I think of a guy who is hoping I'll be the next notch in his bedpost, not actually getting to know me. If a guy has too much confidence/charisma, it can come off as cocky. When you approach a girl, try to learn about her, just as she should try to learn about you. Don't ask her if she wants to go back to your place yet. Just tell her you loved meeting her tonight and wonder if you can have her number. Then ask if she'd like to have coffee during the week sometime. Then text her during the week to set up a time.
because you dont know me. if you walked up to me and asked me out and said you wanted to be my boyfriend i would think you were crazy or desperate. you dont know anything about me but you want to be my man? what about me do you like so much? it doesn't make sense
I think you are making a mistake, at least from where I sit. Women do not like players, but they do like a man with charm and charisma. Who wouldn't? How much does it cost a guy to give a woman a genuine compliment? How hard is it to refrain from cussing and use respect for her dignity? A few simple gestures go a long way.
It depends on what you look like and whether they are receptive to being talked to. Unless they're wearing headphones you can ask them about something, or make a harmless comment, and if they seem interested in talking, good, if not cut it off. It's about control. Girls are usually skittish and anything that puts them on edge (a bigger being) will elicit anger/ fear.