A very serious love interest and I had a falling out. I am trying to move on but my mind keeps going back to him so I am going to give the no contact rule a try and maybe use that time for him to process his head as well.
One ne of the very first things I learned about no contact rule is that once the 30 days is up, it would be advantageous to send him a quick happy memory text without any sort of reply attached to it. While on another, it says to ask him for help of some sort to make the man feel like a hero. The proposed suggested something like "I could really use your help with something".
men, what would be the best approach in your opinion for the first message to him after 30 days of no contact?
Well, waiting 30 days *could* be a bit much. We would really need to know a bit more about the person that you can't really give us an objective opinion on, but make it an odd number. 30 days is right on the money and it will be obvious what you are doing (I've had someone doing this to me). Wait a week or two, and send him a happy memory like you suggested. Don't go for the help gig. If I don't speak to a girl in 30 days and she messages me asking for help, then unless she is a friend and was never anything more I will feel as if she is using me and deny her that help.