my boyfriend and I are 21. We've been dating for a year.
We have a long distance relationship and he is coming up to visit me.
I currently live live with my older sister and her husband and attending university nearby.
I'm excited to see my boyfriend and when I mentioned it to my sister she said we couldn't sleep together and that he would have to sleep downstairs on a air mattress. She said she's doing it because she doesn't believe in sleeping together before getting married and she's just trying to give me advice.
Im upset because I personally don't believe in that. I feel like I am old enough to do what I want. Even if I regret it, that's on me. I don't like being told what to do because it makes me feel like I'm in high school still.
I am almost fully supporting myself. I pay for rent, food, gas, and my parents pay for my tuition.
I don't think its wrong to sleep with your boyfriend if your in college and in a relationship with him , however you are living at your sisters house and I could understand why they wouldn't want you bringing guys home and having sex with them there , its just not really the right place for that. I also don't know how close the rooms are to each other and potential noise and other issues such as shared bathrooms
But your still in your sister's house that is her rules. If you don't want to follow those rules then you have the choice to move out or deal with it. It doesn't matter if you pay for the rent, food and everything else. Either way, if your parents find out you did something like that with your LDR boyfriend, you can get in serious trouble if they don't like it. Even if they would agree, your sister doesn't. Don't do something to the point your left on your own to pay for the rest of your tuition, room and board. I agree with your sister about that choice, but at the same time, this is not about you being mature. This is not maturity based on age and what you do. Its responsibility and acknowledging sound advice when given. You respectfully disagree not complain. Complaining is still signs of maturity. You don't make that call. Others do. At 21 I did not behave like you did, and those who I knew that did, didn't get too far in life like they thought they would. I'm saying you're like this, but you are still under their roof. That is the obligation you have to adhere to, or be prepared to find another place to stay. Again, that is simply your choice.