My ex and I "broke up" about a month ago but didn't REALLY break up until last Thursday. To make a long story short, it was one of those relationships where you keep thinking things will change and that things will be better in the future, only to find yourself suffering in the present. I finally accepted that it was best to just let go and move on and REALLY ended it. I feel more at peace and unlike other post breakups in the past, I am not cursing love and all that mess lol. Anyways, I started talking to an old friend from high school and things have been really good. It's a very different and HEALTHY dynamic than what I'm used to. I'm pretty excited to learn from my mistakes in my past relationship and do things a lot better with this guy who is very deserving of all that and more. But is it too soon? Am I considered "sloppy seconds"? It's been 2 years since I dated so I'm a little rusty lol.
Most Helpful Guy
If you are saying you were with this guy for 2 years chances are after a month you are probably not really going to be in the best mindset. I thought I was fine when I broke up with my ex. Every girl I dated shortly after I would be trying to get into a routine like I had before, looking for things I had before etc. All of these situations didn't end well so I just kind of stopped trying for awhile and working on resetting.
However you are not sloppy seconds, there's nothing wrong with you at all. Everyone will process breaking up differently and you might be fine. I found that taking some time to be single and start to enjoy it again has really helped getting into a better mindset. It seems like I was dating girls only because I wanted to be with someone since that is what I was used to.0
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I actually joined Tinder literally a few weeks after my ex left me and then seriously started pursuing other guys after 3 months or so. The initial Tinder was just to have fun and see what else is out there. I deleted the app after a while. But then in December last year joined again with the prospects of finding a guy to be serious with and fate was on my side, as I met the love of my life within a short period of time on there, 9 months later and still going strong :)0