About 3 weeks ago, I met an interesting guy and I went on a few dates with him. A week after I met him, another cute guy asked me out and I went on a date with him as well. So far, I like them both and I feel it's still too soon to tell which one I like best (I've only been on one date with the second guy and 3 dates with the first). I like the first guy's personality a lot but the second guy is more physically my type.
I haven't had sex with any of them, and I don't plan to unless we decide to be in a relationship. For now, I just want to casually date and have fun! I'm 19, I'm new to the whole dating thing and I don't really know yet what I'm looking for in a guy. So is it okay to date both? Am I a bad person? Should I tell them I'm dating other people?
1mo I talked about it with the first guy and he said he's perfectly fine with me getting to know other guys before we decide we're exclusive! I'm planning on discussing it with the second guy soon and I hope he'll be fine with it as well.
It isn't bad, but if you haven't had conversation about defining the parameters of the relationship you may want to do that before too long, some guys may assume they are the only one you are seeing or that you are together, which will make things difficult. If both of them feel that they are the only one dating you it can lead to hurt feelings, anger... all that annoying drama crap that you don't want in the long run. Being upfront and honest will help keep that from happening. It may be awkward, but it is better to have a little awkward then a big mess later.
There's nothing wrong with dating more than one guy at the same time because it doesn't mean that your officially committed to any of them. Dating is just the start and it helps you decide who's your best potential match. I think your approach to dating is very mature and your going about it the right way. But I do agree with @lightbulb27 that you should be honest with them and inform them that your dating others. Its good that your keeping your options open rather than putting all your eggs in one basket. Good luck with the dating, I hope you find a guy that's right for you. :)
That is the way it should be. As long as you are not exclusive and the guys understand that, you are free to date anyone you want. And so are they. When somebody decides that they want to be exclusive, that is when decisions need to be made.
To me, yes, it is bad. It is immature and juvenile what you are doing. You are playing games and basically you are a player. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I would be heartbroken to find out the girl I just seeing is also seeing another guy behind my back. I would feel betrayed and like I am part of some stupid reality tv competition show. If all you want is giggly fun, at least you should tell the guy he isn't exclusive with you and you are seeing others at the same time. I bet not too many guys would be cool with that.
not a problem, just be honest with them that you are dating others and getting to know people. I'd respect you if you told me your rules and you held to them. If you didn't hold to them (like a prior person I went out with...) then I lose respect:)
To select the right boyfriend you can start dating any number of boys. This is because in the process of selection , when you compare them with one another , you come to know which one is more appropriate to you. It cannot be considered as cheating because you need to choose from a wider choice of candidates. When you select the best husband , your future generation too will benefit. In life sometimes hard decisions should be taken with utmost caution.
You are not a bad person unless you are leading one or both of them on to expect a sexual relationship. You should tell each of them when you're going out with your other friend, but if you choose one as a lover, you shouldn't keep the other hanging on. Until then, you shouldn't have a problem with them meeting other women, either.
If you do have a problem with them meeting other women, you should only see one of them at a time.
Probably wrong, considering what if both guys start liking you a lot and you have to choose, or one of them find out and they get upset. I don't know what the guys are like but they can consider it as cheating.
I don't think it makes you a bad person since you are free to do as you please and you're not hurting anyone. But from being a guy who was in a situation like this, I warn you to be prepared to how the guts will act if they find out you are dating other guys. For me I seen a girl I was dating out on a date with another guy while I was out with friends. Once I seen that I cancelled plans with her and never asked her on another date. I just don't have time or interest in a girl who wants to get to know othere guys while getting to know me in that way. It's like she isn't putting a valid effort into getting to know me. Also while at the same time keeping me around while she looks for a guy she feels is better than me. It's like with that girl it's doomed from the start since it kind of shows she doesn't care about me.
General rule of thumb... Dont ever think you are the only one he/she is speaking to. Always think they are banging someone on the side. Words of wisdom for you all. Less you care, the better the result
Include me let it be 3😂 I want piece of the cake as well
yeah thats like not slutty and manipulative at all... .
You are not Hooked at the Hip with neither One of them, hun, so Continue to Just... Nurse and Nurture each one. Do not Make any Hasty decisions in getting into a Real Relationship with Both or even with One until you are Sure... One is the Best from the Rest. You are still Young yet. I am Sure that this is Not the End and there will be Plenty of More in Store fish in the sea. Good luck. xx
If you are exclusive, then it is wrong. But there's nothing wrong with a few dates with a few guys. After going on another date or two with the second guy, you really should make a choice between the two. I would recommend the one you connect personality-wise since looks don't last forever. But it's your choice, don't let others make it for you.
I think you should tell them you are dating other people then it's up to them to decide if they like the situation or not. For me it's acceptable to be non exclusive for a month or two but beyond that you're just using them.
That's how dating works. You go out with people and see which one you connect with the most. You aren't exclusive with either guy, and they are probably doing the same thing too. Once its exclusive, then obviously its different. But for now, no it isn't wrong to do that. You're 19, go have fun:)
No its not wrong, dating is about getting to know them with no sex.
No, it's not bad and I wouldn't tell them. I just wouldn't let it go on for too long. Go on a couple of more dates with the second one and then make a list of what you are looking for in a relationship, then make a pros/cons list and compare the two. Hopefully that will help with you make your decision and pick one, but don't rush it.
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