One day at work, these two old black ladies were talking. This was right after Chris Brown beat the shit out of Rihanna. And they went off for a while about what kind of a piece of shit he was. The next night, they were laughing about some new temp, who was a real mellow, calm, "nice guy" kind of guy, and a church goer. They were both going off about how they'd never touch a man like that. Men like that were pussies. Good for nothing but the money they brought it. So I asked them "What do you look for in a guy?" "A bad boy. A bit of a gangster. The kind of guy who knows what he wants, and isn't a pussy about it. A trouble maker. Someone exciting." "So a hard worker, someone reliable, someone who makes it their mission to make you happy, someone who treats you like a queen?" "They're pussies. They can't get what they want, so they make little kiss-asses of themselves. They're pathetic. They ain't real men." "Maybe not. But they don't beat the shit out of Rihanna either."
Being too nice is a thing. I have a really good friend named Jen. She's such a nice person but she's unhealthily nice. Peopl often insult her to her face and she still considers those people her friends. People take advantage of her. One time a friend of ours stayed at her house for three days, ate all her families food, and made out with some guy in her living room even though she didn't even want her to be there. She always takes the blame for everything even if it's not her fault. She'll do things for other people even if she knows it'll get her in trouble. Even though she's really a nice girl, she's exceeded the normal amount of niceness and now she's just desperate and she lets people walk all over her. A person becomes too nice when they lose their backbone and they're desperate enough to do anything to please other people. I'd never date a guy that was too nice.
"Too nice" to me means that the girl treats me better than I treat her. But considering I think that I have a good balance of stubbornness and pride, I don't think it would be very necessary to compete. Then arguments like "I always do nice things for you" and "you never do anything for me" will start happening. So no, if she's too nice for me I wouldn't really want to date her.
Too nice is annoying whether it is male or female.
This maybe sounds maybe throw back to stone age and stupid to some but it is nature. Guys aren't he ones that are supposed all nice. We are the hunters and providers, we are supposed to be capable in a man's world. If a guy is nice to a point of looking weak and incapable in a grown up world I would not expect that to be attractive to women.
I like a female on the nice side but, not too nice or I will never have an excuse to spank her.
Then let them go. This is free will , even though you can be against their choices. It won't change a thing. Say to them - Ah understood, may you have a safe day.) and go on about your day. There's always someone who have it worse
Women despise nice guys. Treat a woman like a cum-dumpster and she will love you. The only time they want a nice guy is when they've hit the wall and need a wallet to support them. Oh, and she'll cheat on him.
Have you tried to challenge them to live outside their comfort zone? If the answer is yes and they are still nice to even nasty people or always give in to do what you want, etc. Maybe you should explain that you feel you aren't a good match because you don't challenge each other, or you find the relationship too one sided or bland.
Nice usually isn't the problem. It's the passivity and spineless behavior and beliefs (or the entire lack of them) that are the problem. Anyone I've met who is too "nice" is usually too much of a pudgy, brown nosing coward to take seriously.
It's hard to say because being nice is a positive quality but can also be a bad one. Being a doormat is a turn off so I can't really say breaking up with one is a good or bad idea. I think it varies on the relationship and living environment.