Had my first date with this guy on the weekend and we defintely had a spark and he said he never had a date like this, It felt like we were already a couple. So the date was the best I've ever been on but he must of spent over 200 on me and for a first date it's kind of too much. I kept offering saying it wasn't fair but he said that he asked me out on the date so he should pay.
Im curious how much would you spend especially for a first date? The most dates the average was always around 40/60. Would you spend more on a person you're trying to impress?
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Most Helpful Guy
I don't think there is a set amount that everyone should go by. I'm a big believer that the guy should pay, maybe I'm just old fashioned.
To some people, $200 for a night out on a date might not be a big deal, to some people $50 for a night out on a date might be a big deal. I don't think it necessarily means anything, other than the guy has the money and is willing to spend it.
That's not to say that the guy who only spends $30 on a first date doesn't have money or is cheap, it all depends.
If the first date is dinner in the city and going to a play or a concert, then the total cost will probably be higher than if the first date is mini-golf, cheeseburgers, and ice cream.
Bottom line is don't worry so much about the money end of the date. Don't feel guilty about him spending a lot of money if that's what he wants to do. Don't take it as a sign of how much he likes you, and don't assume that just because he dropped $200 on you this time that he's made of money and can afford to do it every time. Maybe he can, or maybe he just saw this as a special occasion worth splurging on.
For me personally, a first date would fall somewhere in the $40-100 range, though the best relationship I've had (also the longest) started with an under $10 "date". (We both worked in a shopping mall and took a lunch break together in the food court.)1
Most Helpful Girl
I love to know where you people on this site live because in Chicago 200 on a date is basically minimum. Once you're done paying for dinner that's about 150.00 for the average nice restaurant here and that's low in average nice restaurant. Then if you add in everything else drinks maybe after or hanging out after a date is going to cost more than that. I say don't worry about how much money someone spends on you. when you're going out the most important thing is to worry about if you have a connection with that person or if that person is going to treat you right or if you're into that person the money shouldn't even be an issue. On the first date things are kinda odd because these days I hear that a lot of people think that going dutch is the way to go but I was raised with Traditional Values and a man should Court a woman. But these days women don't act like women so things have changed but anyway I go out on a date he's always the one to pay. That's not to say that I'm not willing to pay because I'm more than willing to pay for a date if I go out with someone but I've just never dated anyone who wanted me to and if I've tried they've been upset but I like Alpha men.1