I am 26, live alone, go to school (business major), and work. I have been working since I was 13 and take pride in it. I have also never had a serious girlfriend, I have approached some women but it hasn't worked (either they have a boyfriend or are married) so I stopped trying and continued to focus on school and work. The women in my family think I am a great man and could bring something excellent to a woman's life but honestly I just don't see what they see. My cousin who is 21 recently got married and is having a baby. She told me "working and going to school is good but that can't be all my life is about. Do you really end up alone and forever?" I told her "I came to the conclusion women just aren't into me so I am doing life on my own. Can't force a woman to like you and I won't try to make them interested." She got stern with me and said "that's an excuse to not try anymore. Use online dating there's a woman out there for me even if I don't feel like there is one who could like me." She just wants me to try because she doesn't want me alone in my apartment forever. Would you take this dating advice from women in your family if you have struggled with dating?
Yeah, your family is right. If you don't want to end up alone, you have to try. What do you think everyone else out there has been doing? No one is going to find you in your apartment sitting by yourself. You have to take the initiative and at least make yourself open and available to finding new women and/or having them find you. I mean if anything, is sitting at home alone with no one making you happy and fulfilled and you can see yourself on down the road doing the exact same or do you want more than just that with someone else?
Dating advice from anybody whether it is a men or a woman can be taken and put to use if you think it is workable. At present you are like an untrained person. You have to hone your dating skills. Make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. Improve your communication skills on dating topics. Have an emotional maturity. Be creative to create opportunities. and improve your dating skills.. When you enter the dating zone , know that you are competing against thousands of other men putting out their best efforts. So you should be prepared to put out maximum efforts in your dating journey to success. Keep on trying till you succeed Never give up. When you are successful you will feel as if you have conquered the world.
I would take the advice because it is good advice. It sounds like you do want a woman in your life, but aren't sure about how to find one. I'll tell you that dating is hard, and you have to be willing to put in work to get the results you want. But the good thing is that it's not impossible.
I'm a 27 year old woman, and honestly I could have wrote what you said above. Most of my friends are married and so are my cousins. My 22 year old cousin has been married for 4 years and has a baby. I would love to be married and have kids, but that hasn't happened for me yet. I get sad thinking it will never happen for me.
But I keep trying. There has to be someone out there for both of us. It just takes time.
I would also try online dating, but also put yourself out there more. Sure, most women you meet might be married. I've had that same problem too. Every cute guy I see, well he's got a wife that shows up shortly after I see him or a girlfriend. And then I feel stupid for even trying for him. But there's bound to be at least 1 guy out of all the guys I approach who is single. There just has to be. Because they can't all be taken.
So you have to just keep approaching women.
I'm as helpless as can be around guys. Partly due to bullying. But most people are nice about things. Even if the woman is married or has a boyfriend, she will not be mean to you for at least trying.
Make your decisions based on what you want. doesn't really sound like you've made much of an effort. Maybe you really dont want to apply yourself in that area. Dont seek a relationship if you are not intrinsically motivated to apply yourself. You just end up hurting the other person.
Depends, if the women at your house are... Ya know... Bitches or a weird feminist, then no, but if you notice their advice it cool, then you should follow it, I give advice to my brother, yet he still married this dumb ass bitch, it's so annoying, and also, the women at your house may not have experience
They have given you great advice. Just like you don't make excuse on the job why make excuse for dating? Maybe you haven't meet the girl who will appriaciate you but that doesn't mean she isn't out there. Have faith, have fun and good luck.
Women's minds are ruined by feminism so you can only land a hot one now ie the kind that you really want by transforming yourself into an arrogant narcissistic cad sort of like the youtube personality Onision but you don't have to quite be as effeminate as him.
Anyway there's three options for you to take for your path in life regarding women so I'll provide you with your choices now.
1. Investigate, research and study evolutionary psychology and the PUA/Pimp game and begin your education by reading over the Chateau Heartiste blog, looking up Player Supreme on youtube or his zenmack site and also read RooshV's site along with listening to the Tom Leykis show which you can find online and old episodes of also on youtube.
2. You can forget all of the above and just cut out all the BS and hire legal escorts or outright prostitutes/working girls by heading to Las Vegas and Dennis Hof's Bunny Ranch or any of the other legal brothels along those lines and having fun with women how it should be minus all the heartbreak of relationship drama and jumping through hoops BS that modern idiot feminist females will put you through.
3. Come and join us over on wizchan and learn to disregard females and require magic.
dude you're a 26 years old guy, independt and have money even if not much, hit the clubs, have sex and enjoy your life, wear nice clothes, grow a neat beard and get a sexy haircut, take care of yourself and dont be overweight.
Other than that NEVER TAKE ADVICE from female friends or family. In fact very few women in general can give good dating advice. Women don't understand the game from a mans perspective as it's different rules that apply. Check out Kezia Noble online. She is a chick that gives great dating advice. It's pick up artist stuff but coming from a chick.
Taking advice is healthy, but you don't have to follow it if you don't like it. If you do want to get a significant other, go have some fun. Go to a bachelor's party or a nightclub. Personally, I would take advice from my family but that's just me. Like your cousin said, you could do online dating. However, if you truly feel as if (no offense meant) you are not interested in women or they are not interested in you, you could live the single life. It's good and healthy to experiment.