So I took out this girl on my boat because she wanted to go fishing and as far as I know it was just supposed to be a friendly hang out. She was supposed to have her other friend come along too but she bailed. Anyways she didn't have a fishing license and I offered to pay for it and she was like that's ok I got it, well we had lunch later on and I figured since she didn't want me paying for the fishing license that I didn't bother offering to pay for our meal. Not sure if that was bad or not but we just kind of split the bill. What do you think? I bought drinks and snacks for when we went fishing and of course took her fishing.
It's not bad that you split, but I think she was at least expecting you to offer. Although most women now are totally cool with splitting I think a lot of times it still comes with the expectation that a guy at least OFFERS. I don't think it's a big deal, but I read some of your updates and it sounds like she hasn't gone out with you since, so that might have been a thing. I think paying for lunch is different than the licence, lunch is more of the actual date part of it whereas the fishing was just the fun thing you guys can enjoy together kinda deal. Hard to explain, just how I'm seeing it.
You didn't anything wrong man, doesn't sound like she's interested honestly.
As guys, we should all start splitting the tab on the first date. It'll help filter out some women. How me expecting you to pay for your own meal, this one time, is considered a deal breaker is beyond on me. It says less about the guy and more of the person insisting they're owed a free meal.
It seems like everything worked out as it should. I mean, if you invited someone else to go along, that's pretty much an indication that it wasn't a date. Also she offered to pay for the fishing thing, so it wasn't like she expected you to pay so maybe she was well aware it was just a friends thing.
You are under no obligation to pay for anything, just as she shouldn't feel entitled to your money. She sounded independent anyway, especially if you were generous enough to offer financial help for whatever it was she didn't have, but stopped you and handled it herself. It's good that she wasn't taking advantage of you.
I usually wouldn't care especially since this isn't even a date but a friendly hangout and that's how it's supposed to be on a friendly hangout. But if you got a boat dude then it's kinda cheap not gonna lie.
A man is expected to pay all the bills on a date with a girl. It is a tradition followed since long ago. Women who follow this tradition , expect you to pay all their bills on a date. This tradition is based on the concept that the man is a provider for the family. He is the earning member and has to provide money for all that his household needs. To prove this point men work hard and earn for their living. The money money he earns , the better the family is provided for.