So my friends with benefits and I are toeing into relationship territory but aren't quite there yet. It definitely seems to be moving in that direction, but I've also recently met another guy who isn't shy about his interest in me. Although I'm kind of into the new guy, I've been into my friends with benefits for longer. Since neither are an actually relationship and I'm still technically single - I'm free to casually date both. But at what point should I let one know about the other? Or do I now reveal that information at all?
i think if either seem to want more than just a casual hookup you definitely need to tell them.
i think you can simply explain that while you two aren't exclusive you want to be forthright and let them know that are this current point you are seeing other people. and just explain that you feel it's best to be honest and up front about things
I can tell you this from what I learned from my friends who had casual sex, when a guy wants casual sex from you it will never change. In other words, your friends with benefits does not want a relationship with him. If you want a relationship go with the guy that you like that actually wants one, do not stick around waiting for a guy who does not want a relationship with you.
This is a tricky one. I guess it would be pretty uncomfortable to have to tell both of the guys about each other. As long as you are being safe with both of them and haven't spoken about exclusivity, then I think keeping it quiet for now is fine. The time to mention it would probably be when one of them broaches the subject of a relationship.
I would say before you start sleeping with the new guy. I mean he has a right to know what he is getting into and so does the current guy you are sleeping with. I mean this day and age you need to be careful about who has what and if you are planning on sleeping with both of them than they should be able to make a informed decisio about if they want to engage in that lifestyle with you.