I've been dating this guy for about 4 months; we're not seeing anyone else but we've never had the exclusive talk. Either way, I really like him.
Anyway, I told my guy that my Gay best friend, (who I've known for 20 years and is like a brother) will be staying over at mine this weekend (sleeping in a spare room, as always). We've stayed over at each other's places loads of times over the years (high-school, college years etc) but never shared a bed. I've been upfront about everything, and I'm keen for my guy and my friend to meet as I know they'll get on, but I'm a little offended by his reaction because it feels like he can't trust me.
I know some people will say; "how would I feel if a lesbian stayed over at my guy's place?" but honestly, I wouldn't have a problem as long as there's boundaries and they're not sleeping in the same bed. I guess I'm a bit more laid back than some girls, and he's the first guy I've been with whose had this problem.
Most Helpful Guy
If I were him, I'd at least want to meet him first, so that I can confirm he is actually gay. I'm usually able to tell. Also, whether he is a nice guy or not.
I'm not saying that the guy is a liar, but I've met a few guys who acted really feminine so that people would assume he was gay (without ever saying he is), just so he could get closer to girls and perv on them.
I doubt it has anything to do with his trust for you, but rather his trust in his own sex (in general), because he knows how much of a snake guys can be in the dating world.
Even if he didn't trust you yet, can you really blame him? You've only been dating for 4 months, and you haven't even talked about exclusivity. It takes time to trust people.0
Most Helpful Girl
i dont think there's anything wrong with it, he's a good friend and he's interested in men. It may be weird to him that a guy is sleeping over but he just has to understand that he's a really good friend and has absolutely no interest in pursuing you.0