I'm going to be 20 soon. I've never had a boyfriend, not even held hands, etc. I don't like socialising with people my age, I've been let down too many times, and work with people 4 - 10 years older than me. I don't drink, do drugs or party which has already made life a bit difficult for me. Social drinks happen occasionally with work colleagues and somehow the conversation always steers back to age and when they find out how old I am I feel heavily judged and almost considered a child. However before they knew how old I am they thought I was closer to 24-25. I would honestly like a relationship with someone older than me just because (being frank) I've had kinda a difficult start in life and its made me a lot more mature. I'm kinda pretty and generally shy. My question is: Is there something I'm doing wrong or what do I need to do to stop people being so judgmental of me? Just some general advice would really be appreciated...
Most Helpful Guy
I don't think 20 is that old to have not had a relationship yet. but if its something you feel your lacking , I agree it might be time to try and change the situation , you'll have to meet new people and get out there more. and eventually you might find someone to date. there is also online dating and those options if you can put together a good profile and sit at a computer for a while looking through messages and profiles0
Most Helpful Girl
When I was 19, my youngest friend was 24 and my eldest was 36. I, too, have always been mature for my age and yes, I also got the "shock and horror" responses when I disclosed my age. Just brush it off and let your maturity speak for itself. As far as dating is concerned, if there is someone you like, arrange a group outing, like bowling or something fun and make sure that the person is invited and let them see the true, beautiful person that you are. Or, ask the person out as long as you know for certain that they're single. Sometimes, you just have to take chances.
I don't think they're being judgmental of your age; just surprised. I've always taken the, "I thought you were older" remarks as compliments. Look at it as being wise beyond your years.
Good luck. :)1