I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I've been dealing with this both on online dating sites and also in real life ever since I was in HS.
After finishing my shift, this ugly Pakistanian guy with an accent wanted ask me out at a date (I don't like their culture either so no thanks). Then a couple friends invited me to a club. While two of my friends were dancing with a couple cute guys, I kept getting asked by either someone that was probably already in his 40's, an chubby black man and a mediocre type. I ended up dancing with someone average but better than the ones that were asking me out.
On two online dating dates, I tend to get similar results: blacks, ugly guys from the Middle East, fat men out of shape, several guys ages 40+ and types I'm not attracted to. Only two of them were actually very attractive, which are the only ones I'll be going out on a date this weekend.
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah, how dare the guys you don't personally find attractive have the audacity to talk to someone they find attractive. They honestly should probably be forced into the sewers along with the rest of the undesirables.
Your two friends are probably more attractive than you or come off as more approachable.
Sorry, but there is no magic filter to stop undesirable men from approaching and ensuring that only the attractive dudes approach. Unless you want to wear a shirt that literally says "Don't bother unless you are hot."
Do the approaching yourself if you want to go for specific types. Just don't be shocked if they wish that YOU were the one that had the commons sense to realize that guys like them ain't going for less.
Most Helpful Girl
Start approaching men then. If you don't like the ones approaching you, then you approach the ones you're interested in. Just be prepared for them to think "why do I keep getting approached by mediocre or ugly women?"
You can't control who will approach you but you can control who you'll approach.
Also, attitude missy2