I'm a traditional guy when it comes to dating and marriage. First of all, I *want* to be married, but not in some vague, far-off land, but rather within the next five years. Second, I want a family with all of the traditional aspects--kids, house, the works. Third, I don't like friends with benefits or any other sort of structured promiscuity. I really want to be in a monogamous relationship.
My problem is that it seems there's no place for that in dating any more. Everyone is so glib and non-committal. They don't want kids, they're not high on marriage, and the notion of commitment scares them to death. Everything is so casual now. What's more, girls seem to be the worst about this, like they think they're proving something by being even more promiscuous and blase than guys.
I've tried some traditional dating avenues like meeting people through my church, but it's a very limited selection of people. I've had friends and family try to fix me up, but apparently they don't think that much of me, judging by who they pick out. So honestly, am I just screwed? Are there any girls out there who are looking for 'traditional,' and if so, where do I find them?
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It seems that guys like you are also scarce. I also believe in tradition. All those girls that sleep around and have a friends with benefits situation is because their desperate to get the guy. i have soo many guy friends and nephews who tell me about girls who like them and in a desperate attempt to get the guy, they offer a friends with benefits situation as if that's going to get the guy to commit.
you have to take in mind you are very young. a lot of the girls and guys in that age group are nowhere near as mature as they used to be 20 years ago. Add to the fact that if you live in a city the maturity level of a person goes up exponentially.
What i'm saying is, look at the demographic and the age group. If you're expecting the traditional good girl with values and morals in a city. good luck! they say a man living in the city doesn't reach maturity until he's 35! Whereas in rural areas or areas where tradition, family values are instilled, men mature at a younger age.
just keep looking, don't settle for anything less than what's reasonable for you. you'll never get a girl that will match all the check marks on your list. but one that marks most of them (think the 80/20 rule) then go for it. You'll find her one day.
PS: women usually mature around 25-29 years of age.3