This guy who is closer to my age has been asking why we ant official , we've already have sex and share a lot in common. I like him but I feel like me being unemployed and busy is holding me back. I think i have ptsd of my ex husband calling a broke ass bitch and " no one will want a broke dumb ass like you: its kinda stuck with me. should i tell him?
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How do you expect any relationship to work if you won't communicate and be honest? Those are the most important aspects of it.
Also, it doesn't take a job to be faithful, kind, fair, committed, and loving to somebody. It's okay if you're going through a rough time with unemployment. I would like to think he would understand that, and know that this is not something you don't take likely and will understand your circumstances. Right n ow, this guy is ASKING you why you guys are not official, which means, he's clearly very interested in you. Either let him go so he can move on, or be honest with him and work things out with him.
You need to live your life as you, not as a victim of what your ex said, becuase remember, he's an ex for a reason; therefore his opinions of you or any influences he has over you shouldn't have that much power. This guy you're currently seeing is NOT your ex. So, it's not fair to equate him to whatever it was you went through in the past. Give HIM a chance, and make peace with your past.1