Are you really supposed to settle with someone that's not as you want?

I'm 28, and my mom is basically telling that I should settle for a fat girl, someone that's divorced/widowed.

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2mo Are you really supposed to settle?

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Your mom is just desperate for you to have children and to satisfy the fact that you have somebody. Honestly never settle. You settle because you do love that person regardless of your wants. Because I always say this: What you want isn't going to be what you need and what you isn't always going to be what you want. What do you NEED in a woman? Then figure out if your wants compliments or clashes with your needs. Chose whats best for you, not what your mother thinks. Because she sounds like she doesn't have the wisdom to even tell you that.

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    • 2mo

      Meant to say: What you want isn't going to be what you need, and what you need isn't always going to be what you want.

Most Helpful Guy

  • If you don't feel you want to settle for someone like that, then don't. Don't try and force it to happen if you know that's not what you truly want and won't truly make you happy. What are you exactly willing to do? Listen and trust your own instincts or just follow and do exactly as your mother expects you to?

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What Girls Said 10

  • You don't have to settle for anyone. Now, I don't want you to think I am criticizing you, I am not. But it's not necessarily bad to like fat women or fat people in general. Fat people need love too. And there are plenty of people who are divorced or widowed who would make amazing partners.

    But if you want to be with someone you are happy with, then you have to choose someone you are interested in. I don't think it's right for your mom to try and bug you into settling. That's the worst thing you could do. Because your whole life you will be wondering "what if".

    Just gently explain to your mom that you will settle when you are ready (and if you are ready!), and that she will be the first to know when you have met that special person.

    If she brings it up again, be firm. And remind her what you said before.

    Nosey questions like that are the worst. I'm at the age where I am getting them now. Just be firm and let your mom know your wishes for your life.

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    • 2mo

      I've been wanting a girlfriend for 10 years. I've just always had a hard time finding a girl. I haven't even had a girlfriend yet.

    • 2mo

      It's tough to find a partner. I've been trying to find someone for a while too, and it sucks. I don't know how people can move in and out of relationships so easily. I have a guy friend who just recently broke off and engagement. And I am convinced he will likely get engaged before I ever find anyone :(

  • Your mom just wants grand babies.

    Ignore her

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  • Uhm no.
    That's the worst thing you can do to yourself, and the other person.

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  • does she have a specific girl in mind or just in general that's what you should find?

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      in general

    • 2mo

      Don't settle. Wait till you find someone right for you. If she turns out to be heavy and divorced, bonus for mom. Lol.

  • No way... absolutely not!!

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  • Why does your mom want this for you?

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  • Settle for whoever makes you happy!

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  • No, you go for the one who can be there for you through anything. Love counts too.

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  • 28 is still young wtf.

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  • No that leads to abusive relationships and she doesn't deserve your hate.

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What Guys Said 4

  • I'm 35 and I don't settle for something, there's no reason you should. Find someone that makes you happy, they are out there. They won't knock on your door so you need to do a little foot work, but it will happen.

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  • maybe your mom thinks that you are ugly and no girl will like you, thats why she said that, but dont listen to her. do what makes you happy

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  • I've seen people doing that out for desperation. i won't. i rather die alone than with someone i dont love, point.

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  • Hellz no. Heeeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllllllllllllllllz no.

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