Just moved into my apartment in August. I've ran into this cute girl a few times already, twice while we were the only ones in the laundry room doing a load. 2 days ago I walked in, she was doing a load and saw me and smiled. I made some small talk with her for a few minutes and then she got a phone call from her mom. When I got off the elevator back at my floor it turns out her parents were waiting in front of her door for her. I only know this cause when I got off the lady says "Oh that's not her... Was there a girl in the laundry room with you?" and we all had a laugh. But I realized that she lives only 3 doors down the hall from me.
All the units in the building are studios, and I think there's at least a decent chance she's single. Aside from just waiting until the next time we bump into each other, do you think it would be too forward to just knock on her door sometime when I know she's probably home and say hi? Or some other way of making contact? I haven't ran into her often enough to think that I will for sure bump into her, for example, sometime within the next week. Any thoughts?
Next time you run into her just flirt a bit with her and then ask her out. Or suggest that you two go get something to eat and a nice place near you. Don't go find her door and knock on it. She would find that creepy. Also don't do the secret admirer. Women always put their imaginary boyfreind on to high of a pedestal that no man can measure up to. Just be nice with her and ask her out.
No gal can resist complements and so a knock on her door with a welcome gift with your address/phone can be left after a howdy-do, enjoyed our visits & wish to have more of these in other venues. She hopefully will not be busy and invite you in, during which you must pass all the trust tests she puts out, in order to be invited back, each time more informally - she may eventually make the first move. Otherwise, she will designate a better time to say thanks with conversation.
You could always have a small party or something and put an invite under her door to invite her over. Works best if you know some others in your building. Otherwise you could always slip her a note reminding her who you are and asking if she'd like coffee sometime with mention of when you'll be around if she wants to do that.
Do this... Knock and tell her "i started to make brownies for my mom, boss, local homeless shelter, bake sale, church picnic and i ran out of eggs! Im so dumb and i already started mixing some. Do you mind if i borrow one. I promise to return it!"
She won't think anything of it. Its what neighbor's, even in studios, do. And then you leave a carton of eggs the next day with a note attached to her door. "Thanks for the eggs! You saved me big time. Got extra brownies. Stop over for one if you're a chocolate fan."
There you go. Date one. If she wants to know more she WILL stop by. And if not this is totally polite and nothing more. I would not assume someone was crushing me if i got this note. It wouldn't leave us "awkward". Just a friendly neighbor. Buuuuutttt if i were interested i would follow up.
If you do something like this be sure to make brownies and serve 2 or 3 so she doesn't suspect you are lying about some eggs haha
Maybe if you bump into her again ask her to have dinner at yours or hers. I think it would maybe be a bit intrusive to just knock on the door she might be the type of person who finds that a bit rude not sure though
In college, summer apartment, I saw mine walking from parking lot into apartment 1st floor = neighbor. Curvy enough to get a rise in my pants, even though a gal next door type.
I knocked on her door to offer her a welcome to neighborhood gift of some kind to begin a conversation inside. Although she was rather depressed/tired/resolved/whatever, things got around to innuendos & then making out. It never took me more than 3 "dates" with a non-virgin to be plowing her between her sheets. We kinda drifted away as this summer passed, perhaps another gal came along or returned to my scene or this one just wasn't as enthusiastic in the sack?
Go buy her some flowers.. knock on her door and say "Hey, the flower guy just delivered these to the wrong apartment"... Hand them to her and on the attached card write some silly little note like "Sike, these are from me.".. After she reads it, say "I picked the ones that made me think of you... I would love to take you out for dinner sometime." and see how she reacts.
Don't get roses. That would be too over the top. Grab something colorful...
It would be weird to randomly knock on her door especially if she has never told you where she lives she may think your a creep. Your best bet is make it an effort you walk out the door when she does or hope to bump into her aging and possibly ask her out or for her contact info
Walk up to her and say hi and tell her your name then invite her for lunch
Invite her for cup of coffee, order a pizza invite her over
I haven't really lived in any apartment buildings other than a college residence once but I think it be ok if you talked to her next time you see her if she is in a common or public area of the building
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