I've always been the type of girl to offer to pay for dates or at least half. I'm even down with taking turns paying. I really do not mind at all. I also have no problem making the first move or texting/calling someone first that I genuinely like. My friends tell me that I'm killing my game because men want to feel like men and pay, pursue me etc and to just let them do most of the work in the beginning of dating/relationship. I kinda get what they're saying but it just seems so weird to me that I can't text someone I want to talk to and just sit there waiting for him lol. I mean guys are busy too and I'm sure guys want to feel wanted as well. I don't know maybe I'm doing this whole dating thing wrong lol. Only asking because I have my first date after a big break up coming up. I like him enough to give dating a chance again, but don't wanna ruin it when I pull out my card to pay. 😂
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No it's your dating life. Do whatever you are comfortable with.
If a guy found that a turn off or don't like you for who you are, then he's not the right guy for you anyways.
This guy I been seeing, well he asked me out first technically but I already had a plan so it didn't work out when he asked. So after that he wouldn't text me for like 5 days or so (I thought he lost interest) I asked him out and on our first date he said he really wanted to see me and he's glad I came out to see him. Our first date was amazing, but then he wouldn't ask me out for the second date 😂 and it's been almost two weeks lol (I thought he lost interest.. Again!) so I asked him out AGAIN haha and he said yes... and our second date went great as well.
Some guys they not sure about your feeling towards them and they sometimes insecure/feel not good enough for you so you need to initiate things and kinda lead the relationship.. Some actually prefer that way.
So whatever works for you just be you. If he likes you and is very much interested in you, you taking initiative won't bother him nor turn him off at all.2