I'm a 25 year old single female that has never had a boyfriend and I'm starting to lose faith I will ever get married one day and find the right person. At first when people meet me they say I'm a nice shy girl, being shy is how I am at first then once people get to know me I'm very fun, outgoing, honest and loyal person.
I've been through hell and back with my mental illnesses I have anxiety and depression, I've been hospitalised once for it but not many people know about. I have a psychologist I see and she is really good, it's good being able to open up to someone who doesn't judge you, as I am an only child and don't have anyone to share my feelings with at home. The reason I might be feeling like this and really lonely for the past few years might be because of my mental health, I'm not too sure.
I just want to find a guy that will treat me right amd love me becasue I deserve to find happiness and love after all that I've been through. It might make my life abit easier. I never get approached by men like I used to when I was a teenager, becasue I think a lot of them are in relationships or enjoy being single. I've been rejected a lot by a lot of guys my age and abit older they say I'm hot but then they will stop talking to me all of a sudden and not tell me why.
The longest I've been close with a guy has been 5 years but that was casual/sex hookup no relationship ever came out of that even though he knew I was interested 😢 I've tried online dating and that even doesn't seem to be going anywhere, I think I'm just unlucky in love. I'm always getting rejected by guys.
I'm not the prettiest or the ugliest girl I think I'm average, yet some guys even used to make fun of me when I was younger that I have a big nose, maybe that's that deal breaker haha. Any suggestions?
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Well your approach about this situation is all wrong. Its not about you finding love or happiness. You have to already have these things in you to do. If you don't have love for yourself and love to share and give, than you can't love them back in return unconditionally and conditionally when it warrants it. And if you don't already have happiness in your life, nobody will want to be involved with a person who's already miserable. Because that will hinder their life from moving and functioning.
The problem has nothing to do with your looks if your even able to have casual sex with a guy for even one hookup. So that's out the window. Your nice at heart, but your shyness isn't even an issue. Its how your approaching your situation. Your not confident, you don't even have it. And I bet you don't even know what your seeking or looking for in a mate. At the same time you want to get married, but how many guys even want marriage, let alone want to marry YOU. Then you don't even know what you need in a man other than somebody who can love you. Love is not enough to survive on, especially in a marriage. I'm telling you now, marriage is difficult and hard. You cannot last on love alone. You need other factors to accomplish your goals.
Plus other than your looks, your mental state at the moment and your personality, I'm sorry to say this, but you don't sound like you have much to offer yourself that sounds exciting and peaks a man's interest for them to at least go on one date with you.2
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