I never had this problem somehow. Either we pay in the front cashier or the waitress just put it down in the middle, between me and my date. Usually my date will take it and pay with card, then later on, if we had agreed on splitting the bill, I'd pay him cash. So I guess if the waitress gave it to me, I'd just pay with my card/cash too.
I wouldn't care, I'd just work out how much I have to pay and how much he does. Generally if we go to restaurants we'll go somewhere with a set price like a buffet or a special offer though so that's not difficult.
Id be like "finally now I don't have to feel bad about having him pay" but once I did take the check and my boyfriend ripped it outta my hands insisting that he pays and refusing that I pay cause he knows I'm broke as hell 3/4 of the time. At least I tried lol
I’m male and I personally wouldn’t care, although I’d request the check back so I could pay for our meal, which has happened before and I’ve done. There has been the case when the girl I was on a date with decided she actually wanted to be the one to pay the check, and since she was adamant about the event, I bowed to her wishes and let her do such.
It was a sweet gesture on her part and endeared her to me for it, because she was confident enough with me to make the request and it didn’t cost me anything emotionally or as far as self-esteem to give in to it, and it made her happy, therefore, so much the better. As I’ve said before, sometimes you just have to go with the flow in life; it is too short to worry over the little things all the time. That’s my bottom line.
Most guys probably be thinking yeah, she's paying! But in actualality, the guy, if you are worth your own salt should immediately get it and she should hear nothing else about it. Says a lot about your character by having the integrity to do the right thing.
Does that even happen? I've never seen this myself. They always either put it in the middle, give it to the man (especially in more refined establishments), or hand it to the person requesting the bill.
Would be interesting to see, but wouldn't offend me.
Doesn't matter. You've literally described a situation which has only even happened if the man is in the restroom when the check arrives. The only time I've ever seen them put the check straight into the woman's hands is when I've been out to lunch with my mother.
ONE, WHO DOES THAT. I FEEL LIKE ITS JUST AN INSULT BEACAUSE AS MEN WE'RE RASIED TO PROVIDE AND TAKE CARE SO IF A PERSON DID THAT, THAT I FEEL WOULD BE A LITTLE OUT OF LINE…. NOW IF THE PERSON wasn't TOO SURE WHO TO GIVE IT TO YOU JUST PLACE THE BILL IN THE MID SEACTION OF THE TABLE.
I'm old fashioned I always pay for the date so to hand the bill to her is a sleight to me. Most times I get up and pay the bill before they can even bring it to the table so she doesn't have to scramble for her wallet